First of all, Hang in there @charisma777. Work as expediently as possible. The longer it takes the harder it will be to get him home. Sounds like #lynncoyle1 and #terminallyill have some good leads for you.
The downfall is CPS destroys families. I have a friend similar situation. Her daughter was taken by CPS for the same reason, yet she still has her son. They wanted to do the same thing put her on Ritalin but that wasn't isn't going to fix the problem. In fact she's tried to runaway to get home and they're saying her mom is 'putting' ideas in her head and putting her up to it. They're probably going to say something to the effect that you willingly gave him up since he is a 'problem' that that is why anyone would go to CPS for help, that you felt threatened by him. They have a nice way of twisting things.
I don't want to scare you at all, but I want you to be prepared for what may come. This isn't going to be easy. I think it would be easier to get a child out of a trafficking ring than from CPS. Read up as much as you can, when you ever you have downtime, so you feel that you're still trying.
It sounds like you've got a pretty good support system (on here especially) Be strong and believe you can and will do this.
I am already thinking this is what they will do. I wish I would have wrote down all the troubles as my friends once told me when we first started having troubles. They told me that it could end up like this eventually and to be prepared. I again, thought 'it can't happen to us' well that mind set will definitely not be the one I take on in the future, I have a notebook now that I am trying to get together, just by old messages not against my son, but to show the behaviours were from way back and that we came to receive help, with no results. I am hopeful that things get better and not worse for him. I am most concerned how he is taking all this, we have only been away from one another for 5 days at once. I have been the only person who has been consisitently trying to help him. I am hopeful we will get through this and never have to look back. Thank you for the advice. Much appreciated.
Go back and try to write out a timeline of what has happened. If you can put date GREAT, if not don't worry about it. How were you supposed to know this would happen so you could mark everything down? You couldn't. You had faith in a flawed system. Keep really good notes going forward dates, times, who you spoke with, what was said. Most of all keep the faith focus on what you need to do. When you get him back then you can go get drunk LOL
You're very welcome. Good thing you're not in Texas, NY, Cali or Colorado. It would be so much rougher, they feel they know what's better for the kids than the parents do, regardless of anything. /HUGS
Thank you again! Yes I am keeping fine notes now for sure, I was writing it all down in court and was surprised at myself for not recording it. I absolutely thought we were doing the right thing. I obviously know nothing.
LOL on the getting drunk part. I so would if I still drank. Thank goodness that part of my life is over, but a nice drink probably could be in store. Thank you for the hugs, much needed!