Imagine that you come home after a long day at work. It is late-night and you open the front door to your house only to find your wife standing with a packed suitcase in her hand.
She utters three words under her breath, she says, “I’m leaving you,” and walks out the front door.
A myriad of emotions flood your brain. But, one thing is clear as day: You have been rejected by your second wife.
You are all alone.
Again.
You are now convinced that a third time is sure to end up the same way. Your deepest fears come true: the fear of rejection.
In The Face of Rejection:
Rejection can happen in many areas of our lives. It can act as a catalyst to evoke feelings of hate and make us resent others or ourselves. At times, the power of rejection can cut us to the core and send us into the dreaded dark hole of depression.
You may be going through a similar experience right now. The fear of rejection may be stopping you from taking another step forward in your life. You may have lost a job that you wanted or the love of your life may have broken your heart. The hurt and the pain of another rejection is not something that you are ready to go through again.
Rejection hurts. And when it repeats, it can make you feel like a failure. The human brain treats rejection like physical pain, according to a scientific study conducted by the University of Michigan Medical School. Everybody loves to be loved and accepted. But, when you experience rejection, it can make you feel isolated and alone.
Overcoming the Fear of Rejection:
Just like your physical wounds take some time to heal, being rejected by someone can feel like a mental wound that can linger inside our head long after the incident had taken place. But, the good news is, even though it may be difficult to overcome the rejections initially, once you decide to work on it, it CAN be overcome because believe it or not, a person becomes much stronger and less afraid after facing multiple rejections in life, and dealing with it head-on becomes much easier.
Once you realize that rejections can be overcome, you can be sure that the fear of rejection no longer exists inside of you.
You can start overcoming your fear of rejection by opening up to a trusted friend. I find comfort in writing down my fears and my thoughts on my current situation. If it helps, you could take a notepad and write down whatever you are feeling at the moment- it could be the pain or even your resentment towards someone- write down everything. And after you have done that, take a moment to read it and accept that your situation needs to change. Write down the changes you would like to see happen and read it to yourself.
When you put something to paper, you are externalizing your internal thoughts and that helps you release your bottled-up emotions. You gain a sense of control when you write, thereby giving you clarity and a rational perspective of what needs to be done.
Rohit Nair, author of the blog ‘The Daily Lafda’, tells the following in a Quora post about writing and handling rejections in life:
“…Writing gave me a dream to strive for.
I realized that it doesn’t take much to make others laugh, you just need to know how to laugh at yourself.
One needs to realize that there is so much that life has to offer. Failures and rejections are bound to happen…
It’s like this saying “Shit happens, but it’s up to you to use it as a Nostril Burner or a Fertilizer.””
Winning the Battle of Rejection:
Sometimes, I wish there was a magic pill to overcome everything in life. But the reality is- there isn’t one! And there isn’t a need for one either. Because when faced with the fear of rejection, we have the power to choose- either you choose to overcome it or you don’t. But, when you choose to overcome and not run away from your fears, you can and will conquer all of your fears. Don’t let your mind tell you otherwise.
Whenever a situation threatens to awaken your fear of rejection, push that fear away.
Source- http://www.feedagreed.com/overcoming-fear-of-rejection/
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