Yes, household chores and who is going to do what should be negotiated by each couple. I have seen a lot of different setups work well for others, that wouldn't work for me. In my house, these roles are constantly changing due to kids, kids being older, kids moving out, career paths changing etc. I think in my marriage we have seen both roles!
I agree though, the roles are not selected by gender.
I believe that women can do anything. I was raised by a single mother.
I just don't think it's fair to get the best of both worlds.
I agree. Some women need to decide if they are going to be equal or protected.