I'm just speechless here, how is it that everything is happening without the trace of a way out?
I don't know the right advise to give at all, that's how complicated the story is.
But like you said, it is better to suffer now than to postpone it to the future.
What a world, AC is not a necessity here in Nigeria, it's a matter of choice. I really feel for your daughter, I can't withstand such a pretty damsel to go through that again...