@craig-grant You mentioned being detached and although most people think that means "not caring" -- it doesn't have to mean that, if that is not what it means to you.. This is how I see it: True detachment allows for an even deeper involvement in the experience of "now." Because you lack "attachment" to the outcome.
Personally, some of the most powerful moments in my life were those that I decided to fully experience my life in the "now" without any preconceived expectations of the future (which I couldn't control anyway).
I think it is wonderful to become fully emotionally immersed AND (at the same time) recognize that you can step outside of the "character" of you in that "now" and be objective, if you want to be. The emotions in those moment are just as "real" as your dreams, goals, and plans. THIS ability to recognize that you can step outside and reflect AND -- to NOT attach "who you are" to any desired outcome — is what true detachment is in my opinion.
