I agree to the level of where we have control.
There are certain day to day activities in which we rely on others to do the right thing. Even then accidents can happen.
But I agree with overall state of mind we need to be responsible and co-creators in those areas you are talking about.
Just raising your hands and yelling Victim is an easy copout.
When we rely on others for things like our happiness and mental health, we are kind of setting ourselves up for failure. One person is always going to be responsible for themselves first and foremost.