Ah, y'know, this is how I lead. A leader isn't a leader unless their team is allowed to pick apart and question the leaders objectives. A dictator rules and underlings follow.
I blame society and the strict rules of hierarchy that are unquestionably forced onto us from a young age. We obey our parents, we obey the teacher, we obey the employer. I try to give people a taste of their own leadership qualities, even if ultimately being led by me.
Your post title is how I feel constantly.