IMO it was inappropriate regardless of rep score. I actually agreed with earnest on the issue being discussed at the time -- its tragic that he let his emotions get the better of him. At this point, it makes little sense not to just start fresh with a new account.
As to the stalking accusation. I was following that situation to an extent (if im thinking of the same one, i know there were several conflicts involving earnest). The points he made certainly seemed cogent to me. I have no way of knowing if the user being discussed actually lived through all of the things she claimed to (including one copied and pasted form another website) but its certainly something that would appear suspect to a typical person looking at steem.
You decried catfish and other fraudsters as potentially fatal to the systenm in a recent post... you must realize that simple fact checking is the only way to protect against them.