Please write more of these relationship calamities posts. This particular issues gets me everytime. I was actually being pursued by a man at work once and I told him "Look, if you want to date me, you have to be completely honest with me. That means telling me uncomfortable things, painful things. if I'm fat, you have to tell me if I got fat." He told me he couldn't. I knew we weren't compatible before, but that confirmed it for me.
I don't want to be placated, flattered, and soothed like a parrot with its feathers ruffled. I am a woman, not a child or a pet to be handled carefully and coddled with lies. I ask my boyfriend to tell me honestly if I've gained weight, and he is always honest. Gaining weight is not a sign of evil - just a reality. But the expectation that we have to lie to women (And women too perpetuate this), that we have to deftly avoid their traps or start a fight, is disgusting
Absolutely! Thanks love, I will. I'm glad you've got someone who's painfully honest with you. So have i, and I wouldn't trade it for the world. Otherwise, how else would you know if it's even real? And yes, in the undertones of this sarcastic blog I wanted to tell people that it's OKAY to gain a few pounds. Doesn't mean the world is over. Means that you get to work out more with your man ;) that's always fun!