Contents
★WHAT IS SEX?
★WHAT IS PURITY?
★DEFINITION OF SEXUAL PURITY
★BENEFITS OF SEXUAL PURITY
★DANGERS OF PRE MARITAL SEX
★REASONS TO WAIT UNTIL MARRIAGE
★HOW TO ACHIEVE SEXUAL PURITY
★WHAT IS SEX
Sexual Intercourse may be defined as the copulation of both female and male reproductive organs.
Sex goes beyond the physical,it's emotional and majorly spiritual in nature.God created sex and he had a purpose in mind when he created it.He made it for procreation and companionship in marriage
When Sex is had within the confines of marriage,it attracts his blessings,but when done outside it,it brings Problems,Woes,Tragedy.
★WHAT IS PURITY
Purity is related to guiltless,blameless,or innocent behavior..The state of not being mixed with anything else...something or someone that exhibits purity hasn't been tainted by something morally or physically
Biblically,purity means clean hands,innocence
(Psalms 73:13 Verily I have cleansed my heart in vain, and washed my hands in innocency)
★DEFINITION OF SEXUAL PURITY
Being sexually pure means not dwelling on thoughts of sex with someone than a spouse until you're married
Sexual purity means Saying NO to sexual intercourse,oral sex,anal sex and even sexual touching
It means saying NO to a physical relationship that causes you to be turned on sexually
Sexual purity is not about what you cannot do,but instead,it's about what you choose to do, purity isn't some obscure goal that must be attained.It is an active choice that we make everyday👌
Sexual purity is the active choice to refrain from sexual activity outside the bonds of marriage,it is having faith that we're worthy of more than short term pleasures,and that there is something better planned for our lives
If you've suffered from a past of sexual impurity, you can still choose today to remain pure until marriage...it's never too late
★BENEFITS OF SEXUAL PURITY
Here are a few importance of saving sex for marriage,it is classified into three aspects:👇👇👇
★ EMOTIONAL ASPECT
★ PHYSICAL ASPECT
★ SPIRITUAL ASPECT
Emotionally you have👇
★Freedom from guilt
★Freedom from anxiety
★Freedom from grief
★Freedom from emotional scars
Physically you have👇
★No pre marital pregnancy (child out of wedlock)
★No unwanted child
★No sexual disease
★No abortion consequence
Spiritually you have👇
★A pure conscience with God
★A pure visions for God's will
★A pure motive initiated by God
★A pure relationship with God
★DANGERS OF PRE MARITAL SEX
1 It separates one from God
You cannot grow in grace when you're having sex outside marriage.you will
even prevent your own prayers from being answered. The Bible says the
prayer of a sinner is an abomination to God, hence you automatically fall into
the category of those that pray and can never receive an answer. The only
prayer a sinner can pray and get a desirable result , is the prayer for
forgiveness... therefore,stay away from pre marital sex in other to stay connected with God
2 It may lead to wrong marriage/hurried marriage
Yes...!
The first Person who deflowers you is a very important person
because there is a very powerful blood covenant formed.
If a lady gets pregnant for man and a result marries the man, it
does not mean the marriage will work. In fact, most marriages
contracted because of unexpected pregnancy have problems originating from distrust
3 Unwanted pregnancy
Unwanted pregnancy often leads to abortion and this has terrible spiritual
implications. There is a spirit known as the spirit of abortion and this causes
frustration in the life of anyone that commits it, unless he or she cries out for
mercy. Anything he or she does will not work because the blood of the aborted
babies will be crying out against him/her. If it does work, they will lack a firm
foundation and as such, will not last long before collapsing. Such a person
needs total deliverance
4 Leads to single parenthood
Those that get pregnant from sex outside marriage and choose not to go for
abortion, for one reason or the other, become emergency single parents.
Unplanned single parenthood will not only make their lives miserable it will
also subject the innocent child to an upbringing that causes regret and abuse....ladies please take note of this
5 It breeds suspicions and destroys trust in marriage
As a lady or a guy , once you've engaged in pre marital sex,it will be very difficult to earn the respect of your spouse, he/she will still thinks you can't be satisfied sexually and therefore you'll want to engage in extra marital affairs...
most people who engage in premarital sex end up engaging in extra marital affairs ...the best thing is to keep your body for that one person which is your lawfully wedded spouse
★REASONS TO WAIT UNTIL MARRIAGE
1 It's in God's plan to wait until marriage
1st Corinthians 6:18 Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body.
Fornication is a sexual intercourse between two people who are not married*.It is a divine instruction never to indulge in sex with a person other than your lawful spouse.Else you'll bring God's judgement on yourself.
The fact that a person has indulged in regular non-marital sex without any seeming repercussions does not mean that judgement will not come.Don't be deceived by that
Proverbs 11:21 Though hand join in hand, the wicked shall not be unpunished: but the seed of the righteous shall be delivered.
2 Virginity is given not lost
This simply implies that when you have sex at the right time and with the right person, you give out your virginity to such person especially your husband or wife
But...if you engage in premarital sex, you've lost your virginity to someone that's not even sure of marrying you
3 Self control beats birth control
It's better to stay away from sex than going about seeking for contraceptive pills to prevent unwanted pregnancy
No risk now,no regret later
4 Purity paves way for true love
A guy that agrees not to engage in premarital sex with a lady truly loves such lady...purity will stand the test of true love. true love waits
do not be deceived by any guy
5 It builds respect in marriage
Sex is worth waiting for; I must confess that to you. Apart from the fact that it
is dirty and unhealthy to be sexually loose, you automatically trade your self respect. Your sex partners will see you as a cheap and easy-to-catch person.
You lose the trust they can have for you, which is why most relationships that
involve sex don't lead to marriage. As a lady, men will respect you when you
insist on marriage first before sex. And if he says without sex, no marriage;
then you let him go or else you will be added to the list of those he has slept
with.
★HOW TO ACHIEVE SEXUAL PURITY IN MARRIAGE
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1 You must be clear about the reason why you want to practice abstinence,this way if you find yourself in a sexual situation, you can remind yourself you made a decision to be abstinent
2 Talk to your partner
Make sure you tell your partner clearly and before you start a relationship what you're not willing to participate in..try to have discusssions before things gets sexual between you two as it may be difficult to be clear about what you want when you're aroused.
3 Say No like you mean it
If you find yourself in a compromising situation,say NO clearly and mean it...Abstinence may be particularly challenging in times like these,if you find yourself wavering in your decisions, think about the consequences of your behavior and the reasons why you choose to be abstinent.
4 Learn about your body
Understanding your body and knowing ways to keep it healthy is helpful in maintaining your decision of abstinence...if you're the type that's very sensitive to touch from the opposite sex,learn to stay away from the opposite sex, if it's an hug that can turn u on,then don't hug the opposite sex till you're sure you can control yourself
5 Depart from Negative influence
The kind of people you move with really matters in your decision to be abstinent....move with people that will motivate you spiritually,morally and not people that'll make jest of you on the decision to be abstinent else you take back your decision on abstinence
Finally
I want you to know am not talking about virginity alone but sexual purity, there's a big difference between being a virgin and been pure sexually
we have virgins who engage in anal sex or oral sex simply because they want to maintain there virginity.
The best thing is to disengage yourself from anything that has to do with sexual impurity...
if you're here,and you've engaged in sexual impurity, you can still make your decisions to be sexually pure today,it's never too late
Thanks for reading
May God guide us