According to the renowned Psychologist Martin Seligman, our ability to deal with setbacks is largely determined by 3 P’s. These P’s are ways that we see the world:
Personalization
Permanence
Pervasiveness
Personalization is considering yourself at fault for hardship, instead of considering other external factors. Accepting outside factors have caused a bad situation allows us to reduce the blame and criticism we put on ourselves.
Permanence is thinking a bad situation will last forever. Those who think setbacks are temporary have improved ability to accept and adapt for the future.
Pervasiveness is thinking a bad situation applies across all areas of your life, as opposed to only one focused area. People who think bad situations are pervasive feel that all areas of their lives are impacted. This can make it hard to carry on.
Remembering the 3 P's has helped me tremendously in realizing what it takes to move forward in life I hope that this can help you to.