So much hate... and not the kind people usually fuss about

in #hate β€’ 10 months ago

It worries me that so many people say they hate a person/character/group for their actions - instead of maybe loving them anyway, but being disappointed, or something. 😒

Regardless of religious beliefs, people are people. We're messy, we make mistakes... and because we have the ability to choose, that also means that we can change.

Not that everyone will, of course - you have to choose to do it, and even then, it might be hard... or for some details, maybe even impossible. (I won't claim this is the case for a lot of things, but there's PLENTY of evidence that stuff like introversion really is in-born and can't be changed, no matter how hard people try.)

Still, it bothers me that so many people jump to hate, and are unwilling to consider forgiveness... or at least require you to act perfectly (according to their viewpoint) before even considering it. πŸ˜“ I said it to at least one commenter, but how would anyone like it if everyone was treated that way?

Personally, I hate it when people do things even close to that, to me... 😞

Please excuse the gap in posting. I've been meaning to post more, make some big posts, but I've been dealing with a lot. I might do smaller, and/or lighter stuff to help get the ball rolling.

Also: Titles can be hard. πŸ˜… Add can tags.

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Hate truly is a strong word. Excessively strong for how readily people use it. A few weeks back I was driving some friends home from a house party. One of them kept using the word 'hate' to describe another guest at the party. Specifically, this person was saying that they hated the other guest, because of some perceived social faux pas this person had committed against them in the course of the event. I stopped my friend in the midst of their exaggerated ranting and said: "Hate is a very strong word. Usually if a person hates another, that means they would be willing to kill the other person."

My intention was to get them to stop being so flippant with the extreme language they were using over something that was ultimately, incredibly trivial.

Anyway, a bit of aside there. My point is I agree with you, specifically in the sense that people use the word hate far too flippantly and more generally in the way people overuse extreme-meaning words to the point that they actually lose all meaning. There's always more nuance to be expressed. Why don't people take the opportunity to do so? Like you say, disappointment could be expressed instead and in most cases this would be more honest, in my opinion.