Hi, @m31. how are you? I had time without visiting you. I've been a little full, I'll be able to comment again. How is your work?
When you live through others, you lose your essence. You can not let your life be controlled by others, live to the maximum what you want, what you long for, what you really are, as long as it does not hurt anyone, everything is valid. No one will expect anything good from you, better than yourself. Others generally see the negative and rarely see what is good or positive in one.
I recommend you, one of my latest publications for you read:
https://steemit.com/sc-v/@blessed-girl/loveyourself-voxx77a2ic