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Relationship is an association between two bodies. In what we are going to discuss about , we limit the relationship to two different parties. The by-product of every relationship is success or gain. Remember even failure is a function of success.
Now I will narrow this to some particular relationship, this will be with respect to relationship between a male and a female. Many a times our happiness depends on who is by our side. Its really a very big issues because not only will you be down for hours/weeks/months but also the life of others around you will be in danger…..(for example if a nurse got hurt by the lover, the patient may at the end receive the negative effects)
By default, we all seek for a perfect life for both ourself and our love one, but sometimes due to human nature of unsatisfied behaviour, we all put first in consideration the things we need and end up using the other person as the supplier, in all ,we lack a healthy relationship.
A healthy relationship should always be commutative. Since relationship is of symbiosis which is a close associations between two species. But even as we move in, not all are healthy.
Symbiosis are of three types
Commensalism
Mutualism
Parasitism
All relationship must be of one type and not all are healthy. I think it's time to promote and take the path of healthy relationship. Some people move into relationship only for what they will gain, many even seek to know how rich that man or lady is before accepting him or her in any form of relationship.
And the question is, who will like to lose?
Commensalism
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A commensalism is a type of relationship where one obtains all his or her needs from another person (partner).
In this relationship, (using lady as an example), the lady gains all from the man, because the man have enough to give out. At the end the man never lacks, the lady in question never contribute to the man's life (sexually, spiritually, educationally or otherwise) but never at the same time hurts the man .
Commensalism as a form of relationship is healthy at a short run but not advisable for a long run. This form of association is good for “helpers” or “initial wooing”.
Parasitism
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This is a relationship between a parasite and a host. Its one of the unhealthy association of highest order.
It is a relationship in which one suck and milk the other partner . it is fully a merit for one and a demerit for the other.
This type of relationship must be highly discouraged at every point. Many found themselves existing in this type of relationship and thus have no plan , future, direction or focus .
All they work for ends in the purse of another each and every month.
Parasitism do not only puts the person in great danger of non existing but also puts the family and those around in the same field with an intended psycho.
If I have a say, I will suggest 3 months in prison for partners (especially the host) who practice parasitism.
Mutualism
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Finally we encouraged the masses to always practice mutualism.
Mutualism is a type of relationship where both partners gains from the association. Mutualism is not only healthy for the partners but extends healthiness to their countries or families at large.
The merits maybe spiritual, educational, mentally, financially , sexually, etc.
For students in this type of relationship, its all about success in education, those forming pastors, it's a nice form because there will always be a contribution from another.
Its time we consider not just us but those around us in any relationship we found ourselves.
Many questions we need to ask:
Like - what are the merits or demerits in this relationship
- What type of relationship is this
- Is the relationship define by gain or by love.
As you make your bed, so you shall sleep and wake up on it. Hugs you all.
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I prefer the last one and dislike the second
The second one is a killer
Personally, I feel a healthy relationship should have an atom of the three types of symbolism so as not to be boring and tiring. A little bit of selfishness won't hurt. 😉
HahHah ,tell me you are serious? Well i will love to hear more reasons from you
This reminds me of my biology class on the topic ecosystem. Humans nowadays are selfish and seek their own gain. Mutualism is almost non existent. What we have now is parasitism and commensalism . One should always know when he is the prey in a relationship and take the quit option.
You said it all, hard to see mutualism. Wish the world can face that path... Cant we show the way?
Personally, my view is that any healthy relationship should not be selfish like parasitism but mutualism. Thanks for providing more light on relationships which will go a long way in curbing divorce.
Thanks alot. Welcome
A beautiful piece. Mutualism is always the best. I love all you put up.
Good post! One thing possible relationship I'd add is the codependant relationship, where both parties are sucking off each other. They're both parasite and host at the same time, and when you're stuck in that, it can look like a mutualist relationship from the inside.... until one wonders where their energy has all gone. ;)
The bottom line is that we need to love one another to make this world a better place
ha ha ha igwe can you tell me the kind of relationship i'm into? ...sure u know na.