Not being a parent, I'm not exactly qualified to throw my hat in the ring, but talking from a detached position on this, maybe it gives me a clarity not afforded by being a parent.
Seeing parenting in anthropological terms, and seeing parents where the child is not he center of everything makes no sense to me.
No rules, no social pressures.
It's all about them, whatever it takes..
Your job, as two gene sets, is to pass them on. That's how it works.
To not do anything that maximizes your child chances of success (passing on their genes in the most advantageous way) to me, seems like a dereliction of a genetic job!
My genes have skipped the motivational chromosome, in that area. Voluntarily unemployed, you might say.
(paradoxically, the amount of times mothers, and girlfriends, have said what a great parent I would be...oh well).
I have a feeling, seeing the thought you seem to put into everything (steemit being my only point of reference )- you and your wife are, and will be, fantastic parents...
I think there are two sides to this as some parents neglect themselves 'too much' for their children which ends negatively impacting on the child also. But, I think there is this societal trend for everyone to be free of responsibility, even those who have chosen to have children. It is an entitlement problem where people think they can have everything without paying an opportunity/cost price.
...but that still means the parents are not doing their job, if they fail to see this happening, if it is negative to the child..?
Abundance, and decadence, infused with 50 years cultural marxism ...hey presto..!
(as a non parent, please feel free to tell me to shut up as I have no idea what I'm on about, at any time. No offense taken. lol)
:)
I'm not sure if you know the answer to this, but I'm spamming my contacts!
You strike as someone who might know about this..
Cheers..
https://steemit.com/blog/@lucylin/a-techy-dunce-asks-a-question