We salute you @snowflakesduke
Your introduction has the answer, and frames the analysis you make.
Many decisions a marriage makes involve both spouses, seeking the advantage, happiness and comfort of both. Certainly, health care is one of those important decisions, and how much more so in the setting in which it takes place. could something could have been done better? Of course it could...
Thank you for being with us
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