The person looking back at you in the mirror is awesome
Yes you .... you are awesome!
This is an article written for the #augustinleo writing prompt series for the Day 13 prompt ....
This prompt could be described as a reflection in more ways than one...
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Day 13! Comparing yourself to others can have an impact on your self perception. Do you think it could be negative or positive? Have you compared yourself to others? Which effect did it have?
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This topic .... talks to me and my mirror
Let me tell you a story ~ as to why I stopped comparing myself to others
I went to school in Edinburgh in Scotland. When I was 10 my father moved the family to a group of islands off the north coast of Scotland.
I stayed behind at school but now as a boarder.
I was there for three months at a time then would fly home for the holidays then go back for another three month term.
We stayed in dorms at school.
I remember my first dorm had six boys in it.
I was head of the dorm, quite ironic as being born in August I was actually the youngest of the six.
So we had me the white British boy, then a boy from India, a white Australian from Hong Kong, a Chinese from Hong Kong, a black boy from Sierre Leone and a black boy from Uganda.
It was like a mini version of the United Nations. Talk about six different looking boys. Different skin colour, different hair types, different noses and eyes, even our fluffing voices were all different. We gre in spurts all differently.
Did I want to be any of them?
Fluff no! I love my nose, my hazel eyes with a hint of almond thank you very much I am happy being me.
Then we played alot of sports, some were faster, some were stronger but we were all different.
We are all unique
I remember going home and a friend said he wanted to be like so and so .....
My reaction ...
Yes ... I said Why?
Then then reeled off some ridiculous sounding nonsense to me. Like Charlie has the most friends in school, I want to be like him....
I think it affects girls more than boys.
Back when I was a child we had no social media.
I got away with bloody murder as things were not recorded for the world to see....
So we had much less peer or social pressure to deal with.
Now you have all these so called influencers who have all their flaws ironed out telling people to do or be this that or the other!
What a load of fluffing nonsense.
If they are so wonderful and so happy, why do half of them end up plastered alll over the internet sobbing about failed relationships or some other codswallop...
Did you look in that mirror?
Go do it if you haven't. Look in the mirror and point your finger.
Side story I was talking to someone this afternoon who is the most amazing intelligent and beautiful young lady who suffers from low self-esteem... I cannot get my head around this .... but she needs to do this ....
Now look at the person the finger is pointing at in the mirror.
Repeat after me ....
"You are awesome
You are fluffing awesome
Oh yes you are!"
Of course that person is you.
I don't do negative
So I don't compare myself to others....
What does it prove? What purpose does it serve? Like I said before nowadays there is far too much social media pressure put on young people, and actually I mean everyone.
I can say No and I can say fluff you.
I don't do worry and I don't do stress.
Comparing myself to others would only bring negative experiences...
For example why do I have to have this fcuker ofa disease Ankylosing Spondylitus... why doesn't that person have it?
No it is a dangerous road to go down.
Why do something that makes you feel worthless...
If even the most amazing of young ladies can suffer from low self-esteem why the fluff would I compare myself to others?
I am not perfect ... but I am fluffing me!
Thanks for visiting and I hope you enjoyed my response to the prompt.
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This article is an entry for this month's Inleo writing initiative #augustinleo
Today's prompt is Day 13 | Comparing yourself to others
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All ramblings are from me, the mad Scotsman TengoLoTodo unless otherwise stated, note lead image is generated with AI on pixlr.com from a prompt by me.The other photographs are all orginal and taken by me the author.
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Man! I have done a lot of comparing. Not anymore though. Was at a bad place before but now I only focus on solutions lol
hehe I don't want to hear problems ... only solutions says every Project Manager.
I may not be the perfect version of human to someone else out there, but you see, I believe I am the most wonderful version of human. End of discussion!
TG you are awesome!
I like it Edith :)
I read that aloud, "...i am fluffing me."
I wonder how people fail to see that even the 'assumed' rich, pretty, famous person has struggles too. Maybe it's because the other person is better at vocalizing their wins... just maybe. Amd something that I have come to realize is that, although the other person suffers through their share of chaos, the attitude of telling and counting the good in their life helps their positivity.
That is why I tell people to celebrate their wins. Too many people dwell on the fails and the negative without appreciating all the wins and the positives that they have!
Many thanks for stopping by and leaving such a thoughtful comment, I also think the more we age the more we tend to be happier in ourselves.
I kind of wish I had went away to college. Instead, I lived with my parents and commuted. I feel like I missed out on some experiences.
Ah yeah my cousins all did the live at home and commute to uni. I pretty much left home when I was ten, so was foot loose and fancy free during college days as well. Definitely two different experiences.
I can only imagine!
A somewhat atypical, wonderfully multicultural childhood.
Great to be the leader of the UN 🤣😘.
Very funny post and good advice.
Hehe yes I loved being the leader of the UN 🤣
Waoooo love this content and I reflect on it, I live comparing myself with others and that automatically lowers my self-esteem and raises my negativity to a thousand. And more because of chronic illnesses that complain me and don't let me be happy. However, it is not a terminal illness and I do not learn to see the good things in life.
When we have chronic illnesses it is very hard not to compare ourselves to people without those illnesses.
But when we do as you say, we will get depressed and become negative. That is not good. So yes try to focus on the little wins.
Everyone has something going on their life we don't know about so yes celebrate those little wins and try to be positive.
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I somehow feel attacked! Looool! I’m teasing. Low self esteem and comparing. Yeah. The world has turned on its head these days and people doing whatever they can go be liked, accepted “loved”. Why I stay away from social media unless for cat videos lol.
Isn't it ridiculous to feel loved you have to be liked on social media.
Just ludicrous, yeah I love the dog videos but similar idea.
The moment I realize everyone is just trying to get along i stoped comparing myself with others and try to be the best version of me
That's it ... just be the best version of you :)
Yahh u got that right