As many of us know, pain can be caused by anything. It could be pain from an injury, pain from guilt or even pain from anxiety. I'd like to talk about the pain that comes from betrayal.
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If you've ever been betrayed in your life, especially by a close friend, then you'd know that betrayal really hurts. The fact that a person who you relied on and trusted actually double-crossed you or stabbed you in the back. People who are victims of such events sometimes make up their mind not to trust people easily, irrespective of how angelic the person looks.
This reminds me of a time in highschool when all the class girls were betrayed by one girl.
It so happened that we had night class one night. Our further mathematics teacher had told all of us to wait for him in our class hall by 7pm. We all gathered in the class; thirty minutes later, the man was nowhere to be found. We had a similar occurrence last time and we were flogged by the man for not waiting for him. This time around, we decided to give it forty-five minutes.
Staying outside with your fellow classmates at night can be fun but exams were drawing near and such fun had to be put on a halt. The female senior prefect announced in front of the whole class that all girls should start heading back to the hostel as she had no way to confirm if our class will still hold.
A group of girls started walking towards the hostel when we saw the boarding master approach. It's worthy to note that the boarding master wasn't in charge of the girls and he could only punish us with the permission of our boarding mistress.
This man came out from the shadows and told every girl on the pathway to get on their knees; the girls that were still in the class heard this and scurried out to join the rest of us on the pathway. He held three terrifying whips in his hand and we automatically knew our fate. Some girls tried to explain to the man that we had a class and that we stayed a little longer because of the previous occurrence. This man didn't want to hear any explanation.
The first question he asked us was "how many girls are you?" "Fifty-three" we chorused. He went on to ask again "are you complete?". We did a head count and realised that one girl was missing. The man concluded that he would flog all of us because one girl had made it to the hostel earlier.
This girl went back to the hostel, told the boarding mistress that the girls didn't want to come back because they were with boys. The boarding mistress in turn–without confirming the news– called the boarding master and the boarding master came in all his glory, ready to give girls a good arse whooping, hypothetically.
I was the second person to be flogged that night because I was in front. We all got back to the hostel and we're so eager to find out who backstabbed her fellow girls. I found out and I couldn't even react. She was someone who sat right beside me that night at class. I wondered why she just took her book and left. I thought she wanted to go to the next class to read. The pain that accompanies betrayal set in. How would she do that to us, me especially. We were literally talking that night in class and now this? It was very heartbreaking but what to do? That night, we moved from being friends to just acquaintances.
Such situations harden people. After the incident that night, I knew what the true definition of betrayal was and that too, a betrayal from a close friend.
Why is betrayal so devastating?
This is because we're always betrayed by close friends or loved ones. A random stranger can't betray you because they know nothing about you and if a stranger knows something about you, then they were most definitely told by a close friend of yours.
We will all suffer betrayal at some point in our lives but this shouldn't destroy the trust we have in other people.
It's typical to grief when one finds out that he/she has just been betrayed and that's totally okay. Grief all you want but don't spend all your life sulking over spilled milk. We learn from such experiences after all, so it's best to get up, wipe the dust off your clothes and keep moving. I don't think that the pain accompanied by betrayal ever varnishes, but the memories are sometimes swept under the carpet and the betrayers are kept at arm's length to; prevent a reoccurrence.
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Betrayal is always hard. I lived with my husband for 15 years, we created our shelter together. But one day, when problems started with our animals, he just ran away! I was shocked! I was left alone with over 100 animals and birds. I spent two years rebuilding my life and now I've done it. And you know what I think? I think it's good that he got out of my life. Because something terrible happened next. First covid, then war. But fate sent me new people, real friends. And now I'm scared to imagine that I could be in occupation under shelling next to such a coward and traitor as he.
People that run at the first sight of trouble have already been planning their escape for a while. I'm glad you got to see the type of person you were dealing with and that too, at an early stage.
Like they say, when one door closes, another opens. I'm happy you got to meet real and true friends.
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It´s so devastating when someone so close to you and trust they wouldn´t do anything to hurt you decide to betray you, because you would never expect that from them. The girl really betrayed you girls and it was unfair of her to do such. When trust is broken, it is difficult to get the relationship back but mere acquaintance which is very bad.
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It's sad what she did to us but we all learnt a big lesson that day; Your betrayer could be closer than you think.
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Why is some people like this, this is a sad experience, she succeeded with putting you guys into trouble.. Sometimes I wonder if this kind of people have conscience?
I don't know what prompts people to do things like this. I think they all have conscience but maybe they suppress it.
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Betrayal from close friends always hurt the most. And you are right the pain never disappears, some people are so cruel when it comes to betraying their friends
And sometimes I wonder what prompts them to do it. Why would you want to betray a person you call a friend.
Ouch poor wongi, I went to boarding school too and the teachers were vicious, mind you the older boys were worse🤣
I feel for you, and that was pretty shitty of your so-called friend at the time!
Shitty is the right word. It was very unbelievable to say the least but In the end, I learnt the lesson...don't trust fully.
It is never an easy experience to deal with because being betrayed by someone you love or that is close to you is very hard to let go.
I'm glad you see this from the same perspective. Betrayal can be very hard to deal with and it takes time for one to get over it.
So painful, I really don’t know where some people keep their hearts.
I’ve been betrayed by a couple of friends and our friendship never remained the same.
The feelings we once have towards friend die our naturally when they betray us. It's just sad
Wow, that's really painful when you think about the flogging for waiting for a class and the second stage would be realizing that someone sold you out for whatever reason best known to her and the final stage of pain would be realizing that it was your close friend....Been ages but these kind of things would make you fear people you bring close
Exactly. It's actions like this that make people rethink the people you bring close to you.
I like that you broke it down into three stages, very accurately.
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Your friend thought of selling you guys out like that to save herself, which is very bad. Without her betrayal, you guys won't even be in trouble in the first place.
Betrayal from friends, family can come in any form, at anytime. We just need to learn how to put our trust in people.
My friend sold us out without thinking twice and that was a very sad moment. The other girls started to pick on her but what's done has already been done.
We really need to be careful with the people we out our trust in.
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Well, that's painful
Sorry about that
I'm sure the nostalgia of that event would last for years even after school
Exactly...
It has lasted till date and I hope it fades away soon..
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I know there won't be next time but please, next time,do not be among the first 40 people to receive the lashes 😂
You know it's always better to be among the first o... You chest the cane and go and sit down 😂😂
Okay nau, you wee take canes when his energy is still intact ba?
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Oh.. you have a point tho
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I also already experienced this before.
And how was the aftermath? Terrible?
Yeah. And that thing leads me to be more introvert which was really hurtin my part. But i have no choice but to accept it beacuse that was my destiny
Noo, it wasn't your destiny. It was just another person's lack of thoughtfulness.
Sorry about it though.
that is brutal.
thankfully corporal puishment is now banned in UK schools
I doubt it would ever been banned over here.
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