accept as truths
This is a mark of wisdom. I know you are intelligent enough to understand that not every father to a 5-year-old is going to be better than the mother. I've known of mothers who could have said plenty about the father and never did. I know you know this too, I'm typing mostly for everyone else.
I'd entertain pretty much anything, although I know this is a highly controversial subject so the smart thing would be for me not to touch it. I'll research your references anyways.
Very few people like to be told what to do, the main thing with the gender subject is that you need to make it VERY CLEAR that you're not saying women can't do something or shouldn't be able to do something. It pains me to have to say this every time but apparently it's necessary right now for constructive conversation.
Biologically, I can explain (not justify!) what you claim is an actual trend of women using their words to hurt, as the best use of their communication skills for survival.
Females can be easily overpowered by men as a general rule, physically, but language and thus learning are the biological realm of females, very few rational men would try to deny this...also, let's not forget, that women mostly end up with the job of teaching children to speak. With each child they birth they learn and relearn the way the human brain processes information, by closely watching their child develop around language and different experiences. Women need to teach a handful of words to children as quickly as possible to lighten their own load and make the chances the offspring will survive notably higher...they need to learn how to make you understand something for the sake of human survival.
Understanding that it might just be about survival after all, doesn't it make sense that at least the "quick reply" part of their language skills, considering in a few ways their body is not as sturdy as that of males, would try to compensate as a fight mechanism?
They don't actually have to be in danger, they just need to feel threatened, and then if she's not careful she could end up speaking out loud exactly what she believes will hurt you the most...and the likelihood is that whatever she says is exactly what would hurt you the most. She needs to be able to disable any man with her brain and her voice and her movement and whatever else she has except her physical strength.
I hope this makes sense to you and helps you understand that it's not necessarily all malice if you've met a lot of women who have purposedly harmed you a lot with their words.