I'd have to tell you to throw that mentality into the gutters. Nobody is in control in a relationship. In relationships effective communication will make things work which is why relationships should begin on the basis of friendship such that enough understanding exists between both parties.
Nobody is controlling anybody. That's just selfish and the mentality of ownership. You don't own anyone.
Each party has his or her own personal lives. Couples can only advice each other but not control.
I think not all the times where there is a team without a striker,
This mentality is what leads to domestic violence.