Hello guys, been a while I've been here. Well this amebo prompt has finally caught my rapt attention lol. So here we go with the rearranging of this table-shaking matter.
Some time ago, I stumbled on a twitter thread based on the topic of couples having separate rooms whether they are married or still courting. Quite a number of people were in the support that men needed it the most, calling it a "man's cave" and that the women could have the rest of the house.
It was all gender based for a lot of comment I eyed, till it got to a turning point where a user on the bird app linked separate rooms to some sort of privacy and as I expected, a countering reply followed reading; "That will only breed unfaithfulness in that relationship, take it or leave it!"
This got me thinking. Is this true or false? Honestly, I was in a 100% support of the statement but then, I gave it a second thought and I was like, screw that stuff bro, at some point we will want to really be alone - even from our partners.
I am in a relationship and I don't live with my boyfriend yet but at some point, my dear brothers and sisters, I just want to stay a day or two from his shackles, lol. The shackles I mean isn't a negative impression at all. My guy can be clingy sometimes and I indulge him on many occasions cuz he reciprocates when it's my turn.
But then, days when it's not rosy, I give him his space and I take mine. I don't think having your own privacy is an avenue for unleashing unfaithfulness unless the couple are untrue to themselves.
My opinion about spouses going through their phones.
About the case of going through each others phone? Personally, it depends on the content my partner wants to view. I usually keep a clean profile in my relationships (both past and present) mostly for the ease of my conscience.
And I don't have uncomfortable content saved on my mobile, no matter how I try to but if my partner asks for my phone, I'll question him for a reason. If the reason he gives is acceptable, I'll pass him the phone. If not, baba, we die here sha, lol.
If he serves me the above treatment when I ask him for his phone with or without a proper reason, I will gladly live with it as a taste of my own medicine. No big deal.
Lastly, I believe as we grow, we become more personal with our stuff whether single or taken. I will also serve the same treatment of questioning to a casual friend or my sibling when my phone is asked of, not just my relationship partner. It doesn't spell infidelity to me. It's merely PRIVACY for me.
And when I become insecure, I trash it out with my spouse, just to get it outta my chest. It's all for peace and light ✌❤
You really bring out the R in the relationship! Hahaha. True. Privacy is a must i don't however agree with sleeping in separate rooms especially as a married couple. Thank you for posting in the HiveNaija Community.