I'm a lover of love. I don't know where this love comes from, probably from watching my parents growing up or the many romantic chic flicks I've always loved watching or my obssession with romantic novels.
I remember being a kid and spending hours sitting and dreaming of the perfect romance. I would imagine what my life would be like with my crush, I would imagine the craziest romance scenes and hold the hope that that guy and I would have that fairytale romance and ride into the sunset.
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Life hit me pretty early, in terms of romance and all. I got broken and beaten down in my first attempt at a happy ending. I started imagining a ride into the sunset and that never happened, so you can imagine what that did to my love for love.
I began to doubt the existence of love. Romance scenes would come into view and I would view them with a lot of hate and disgust because of how absurd they seemed. I still do that sometimes when they seem too far fetched. But I guess love can be far fetched.
I love to love and regardless of how I try, I'm still internally that child who just wants to ride into the sunset with the love of her life. I'm playful and dismissive of romance but that's partly because I lack the capacity to show it to the degree I would be comfortable with.
My thoughts on valentine's day?
I've spent a lot of time feeling like love can be bought. I kid you not, I was serious when I wrote about having enough money to buy a husband. So for Valentine's Day, you can only imagine the kind of drama I often imagine.
For a couple of years when I had a horrible relationship where he claimed he didn't care about the day because he wanted to be with anybody but me, I spend the day at an Orphanage.
The Valentine's day orphanage movement started with my friend Emelda when we were in our second year at the university. She was also lonely that day even though she had a boyfriend and she proposed the idea so I was totally up for it.
I had a lot of clothes I bought that I never used, so I packed them up, got some money regardless of how broke I was and bought a few home essentials and took a huge bag to the orphanage. It was one of the best days of my life. I had more fun than I thought I would so I did it again.
The next year, my friend Emelda had a more serious relationship so she went out with her man while I went out with 3 friends. It was amazing too because after our orphanage visit, we went to see a movie and we had a great night.
The next year, I put the word out and got a lot of clothes from different girls and guys in the hostels, I took out the money from my allowance and I got the usual daily essentials and I went to a much bigger orphanage with my roommate.
That was a sad day because I went to a bigger orphanage with more kids with sadder stories. I mean we had babies who were picked up from dustbins when they were born because their parents didn't want them and had no idea what to do with them.
I remember meeting a set of beautiful twins who lost both their parents in a car accident and had no stable relatives to take care of them. I was in a terrible mental state after that day but I did it alone the next year.
The last year I went, I went alone. I gathered my stuff and went to one of the most expensive orphanages I've ever been to. I was unhappy because even though those kids were in bad situations, they were somewhat privileged because they were only children brought in by lawyers whose parents had court cases and they didn't seem like they were in need. That was the last time I went to an orphanage.
I wanted to go again 2 years later but I couldn't.
I got my very first and only Valentine's Day present last year. I got a really cute perfume and I was so pleased but I haven't given a special person a gift yet. I always thought this would be the year to go all out for someone but life had other plans. I probably need to keep saving and maybe my first gift to a special someone could be a new house or a car.
I'm a lover of love. I take gift-giving seriously and I always come through for the ones I love, always. Valentine's day or not.
I think Valentine's day is just a day. If you can treat it specially, you should. However, it shouldn't be the only time you receive or give love. I always imagine being with someone special and having every day feel like Valentine's day. I want to give random gifts to put a blush on a grown man's face.
How about you? Do you have Valentine's day tradition or it's just a day that has passed without relevance? What could make it different?
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Well, I do not have a valentine's day tradition, but I definitely like yours. I've never had a girlfriend, so I've never really celebrated valentine's day. I've got quite a number of fears these things. I do , however, still love love, and I hope you find that love you spent so much time dreaming about. Or at least, a semblance of it.
Never had a girlfriend? That's a first. Probably have one or 2 girls who have had you as a boyfriend though 😆.
Well, that shouldn't stop you from celebrating. It's a beautiful day and love is still what it is, so why not show it to someone.
I currently have 2😂😂. 2 girls who really like me.
Maybe next valentine's day would be more eventful than this one 😅
😆 you're just here disguising. So you got 2 gifts and gave none?
Will you pick one of them? Give me gist
😂😂😂
I didn't get any gifts coz we're not committed. But I did go on a picnic with one of them the previous evening at Agodi gardens. It was very nice.
I think I might ask that one out. I'm a bit unsure because medical school's got me so busy and I'm not quite sure I'll be doing her justice if I'm not able to give her the attention she deserves.
If I'm gonna do it, I gotta do it soon tho. I fear the feelings may fade with time if I keep being dodgy.
Let's see how it goes.
What do you think? From a girl's perspective.
What makes you like her more than the other girl? If she's worth it, you'll definitely find the time and real feelings don't fade so quickly.
Well, I just seem to sync more with that one more than the other. It's just a feeling.
I've got to find some time then, coz she deserves it🙂
I know you are serious but girl! I remember that post and I almost gagged while laughing 😅😅😅😅
Point Blank Period!!
And that is the conclusion of the matter @young-boss-karin 😊
My brothers keep pushing me to work hard and marry at least 12 husbands 😂
This line is giving me rich sugar mama vibes. Valentine is seriously overrated. The last time I said this, a friend called me a sadist (really weird).
You're just here disguising. I dey look you from side.
Mhnnnnnn e just get as e be
Reminds me of the song "Santa's Real" by Sasha Sloan. If you haven't heard it, maybe you should. You'd love it. It just describes everything you put out here.
I think I should put my singleness to use and go visit an orphanage. I have thought about that I just don't know how to start.
Love can be amazing. Sometimes I worry that I may never give a gift to that special someone but what do i care? I won't kill myself abeg. When love comes, it'll come and it'll stay!
See, I stopped saying this because I care. And deep down, you do too. I love love. Whether it's for me or someone else.
I just listened to the song and you're right, it describes this. I love it. I'm extra fragile these days so I try not to listen to songs this deep, thanks though.
Awwww... Love is sweet.
I can't forget the look on somebori's daughter when she saw the surprise package on Valentine's.
I like that you were intentional about showing love to less privileged folks when you didn't have a man to go out with.
I hope you had a man to go out with this year @young-boss-karin