No I did not. I could not cope with it immediately afterwards, and we were then living where almost no one knew him. My daughters and sister were there when he died so I had that. We went right away to the lake (where I am right now) which was his favorite place. I was numb for a few months.
My daughters and I did spread some of his ashes in the lake a few months ago, and I hope to have a small gathering here, with only those very few who remained loyal and loving to him until his death. I don't want anyone who abused him or judged him, or me as his mother, unworthy in any way, and there are quite a few of those who have said they would like to come if we do something. Screw them. They were fair weather friends, who just want to feel better about themselves. oh now you've made me mad!
Ohhhh no, sorry, I didn't to remind you of awful things!
Those who do the harshest judging seem most eager to show up and display condolences.
Hypocrisy...
I'm glad you had your sisters and a loyal few with you,
that you did the thing at the lake,
and that you're at the lake now, and he has to be with you there, in spirit.
Lake Owasco!
Your Aunt Jane! (Please tell me I got the name right...)
She too was misjudged, yet her lake house lives on and how many of those who were sneering or contemptuous of her are enjoying that place...
Sorry, I will only get you even angrier!
You really brought your aunt to life, the spinster who did so many good things for her nieces and nephews, and yeah, she maybe was a little sharp-tongued and held everyone to high standards, but that woman had character and integrity. You knew it! You celebrated her, here at Hive, with many epic memories.
No I did not. I could not cope with it immediately afterwards, and we were then living where almost no one knew him. My daughters and sister were there when he died so I had that. We went right away to the lake (where I am right now) which was his favorite place. I was numb for a few months.
My daughters and I did spread some of his ashes in the lake a few months ago, and I hope to have a small gathering here, with only those very few who remained loyal and loving to him until his death. I don't want anyone who abused him or judged him, or me as his mother, unworthy in any way, and there are quite a few of those who have said they would like to come if we do something. Screw them. They were fair weather friends, who just want to feel better about themselves. oh now you've made me mad!
Ohhhh no, sorry, I didn't to remind you of awful things!
Those who do the harshest judging seem most eager to show up and display condolences.
Hypocrisy...
I'm glad you had your sisters and a loyal few with you,
that you did the thing at the lake,
and that you're at the lake now, and he has to be with you there, in spirit.
Lake Owasco!
Your Aunt Jane! (Please tell me I got the name right...)
She too was misjudged, yet her lake house lives on and how many of those who were sneering or contemptuous of her are enjoying that place...
Sorry, I will only get you even angrier!
You really brought your aunt to life, the spinster who did so many good things for her nieces and nephews, and yeah, she maybe was a little sharp-tongued and held everyone to high standards, but that woman had character and integrity. You knew it! You celebrated her, here at Hive, with many epic memories.