A few months ago my youngest son moved out and we became empty nesters. His bedroom was in the basement and because it was in the basement was rather roomy to say the least. We have been waiting to do anything with it, seeing if he changed his mind and would move back, but enough time has passed.
Yesterday the wifey decided it was time to take it over and make it her exercise room among whatever else we would eventually make it. I think this was a fantastic idea and so did she. That is until she actually dug into it and seen how much of a mess my son left the room and area.
When all was said and done my wife dragged out four bags of trash. She found clothes with tags still on them and other wasteful things.
I was peeved to say the least.
After stewing for a bit though, I wasn't so much upset at him anymore, but at the fact we had not instilled in him a better sense of respect and thankfulness for what he had and still has.
Suffice it to say, he and I will be going out for a lunch later this week. I plan to make it an afternoon with him and plan to have some long discussions with him about the situation in the basement, his lack of respect for his and our belongings.
I know initially it won't go over well, but it never does with the youngest. He is still at the age where he knows everything and moved out because he felt like he was being controlled and was tired of being told what to do all the time. When in fact I would say now it was probably the exact opposite and we needed to be on his case a little more.
Well, anyway, at least I can get the walking pad out of the living room now and move it to the basement. My only fear is that if I move it there, I will never use it again, LOL.
Anyway, time to convince my wife that I can move my office into the space as well. :-)
Wish me luck!
Thanks for reading,
Joe
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I hope you took the clothes with tags still on them and listed them on eBay! Everything is worth something in my experience, just have to find the right buyer.
Putting that walking pad is dangerous, out of sight, out of mind... I know the feeling! You did the best you could with your son, none of us are perfect as parents. There are so many things I would have done differently in hind sight. But that's what grandkids are for, spoil them and send back to your kids! lol
We still have the clothes. We are probably going to donate them for the homeless.
For now the walking pad stays with me upstairs. You are so right, if it went downstairs it woudl collect dust just like everything lese in my office. I rarely go down there anymore. Oh, my youngest is a good kid, he is just a slob and needs to better discipline himself in that sense. He works a job and goes to school, so can't beat that for a 20 year old these days. If he would just pick up after himself and clean better.
Believe it or not that may be in his DNA! Some people are born organizers, others not. But many of the most brilliant minds in history haven't been great organizers. Plus, when he decides to get married it changes things. You know what I mean! lol
Sounds like it is a big enough space that there should be room for everything. I hope it works out for you. Good luck with the meeting. It will probably take a bit for it to sink in. I've had clothes where I never took the tags off. I bought them hoping I would fit into them one day. Never quite worked out for me...
I hear you I have a few shirts and pants in my closet that no longer fit, but did at one time. However, they were worn at some point. I just need to donate them because I doubt they will ever fit again.
We are lucky that my brother in law manages a store that sells items to needy people and then they give food away too. It gives us a good place to offload the stuff we don't want or no longer need.
That is cool. We have a few charitable places around here we usually donate to.
Maybe now he's moved out just let it go. Sometimes it's not worth saying anything. He's young and I'm sure he won't be like that forever. Maybe a joking kind of ribbing would be better than a lecture - what's done is done. It would have pissed me off too!
I most likely will. We will just go out and enjoy a good lunch and hit an indoor flea market we enjoy. HE seems to be doing okay keeping his own place u pfor the most part.
Don't worry, you'll have your revenge when one day he moans to you about his kids making a mess, and you'll raise your eyebrows and say something like: 'oh, I remember SOMEONE like that!' and he'll realise and appreciate you even more.
That will be fun!
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Haha, yes it's usually a thing, out of sight out of mind.. We only have an indoor bike for me to use (my boyfriend fully ignores it haha) and although I don't love it, I used to love riding my bike around town a lot and kind of miss it. It's just that our storage room here has a nightmare of a lock, and most of the storage is filled with landlady's items, sigh, so I'll just pass as I think the bike would be stolen the first opportunity anyway :(
It's a shame your son didn't leave it a bit neater, I mean, imagine moving out of a house anywhere and just leaving stuff as is, lol. But he's young you say, so he'll learn that in the future. Why don't you invite him to help himself btw? Or is it done already?
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He does now, he’s moved out and living on his own. He’s learning what it’s like to have to keep a place clean now.LOL
LOL, well like you wrote, one day he may have kids and complain about them, you both can remind him of his own shenanigans :)