I have not been keeping up with anyone, I don't even get notifications from people I know! :(
I happened upon this and you poor girl! How often do I think of you, having cared for both of my parents, while living in another State and putting my family on hold to go take care of them, bring them home with me, bring them back after a few months, stay there... My dad has Alzheimer's. My mom was just frail like your mom. I never did put them in care, and my father wouldn't let a caregiver come there, he got violent.
It's sad. It is. We all get there, but, it sneaks up on you. What you are doing out of love is still admirable. I love your heart. It is genuine and true. I never thought I would even think about a care facility, but, when it starts affecting the caregiver, such as yourself, you need to take another look. It really takes a toll.
In saying that, we all must do with what we can live with. You will make the right choice for yourself and for your mom, but, please, please, don't be a hero. You need to continue to live and be in good health too. It is a hard decision.
Much love to you!xoxo
Thank you so much Denise, your parents are/were blessed to have a daughter like you!
I think Alzheimers is one of the cruellest conditions for anyone!
I know what you're saying and am trying to make time for myself, but it all happened at the wrong time as our staff were away and the bnb was at its busiest!
Mom was very demanding yesterday, her speech was really bad and kept on ringing the bell and asking if she'll get better. I was ready to throw in the towel and accept my brother's offer of a day caregiver, but she's much imoroved this morning. She would hate that as well, as that would be her last shred of dignity gone to have a stranger take care of her!
Our Cynthia is back this week and Mom trusts her, so that's going to be a big help!
Please take good care of yourself too xxx