Como padres, tenemos que educar, cuidar, proveer y preparar a nuestros hijos para el mundo real, pero la mayoría de nosotros nos enfocamos en darles todos lo que ellos quieren sin ponerles retos.
Darles todo lo que nosotros no tuvimos nos dá una satisfacción personal, pero es lo que realmente nuestros hijos necesitan?
Soy de la vieja escuela, en donde mi madre me decía tienes que lavar mi ropa interior para que aprendar a lavar mi ropa, busca la forma de ganarte la vida de una forma honrada y ser independiente lo antes posible.
Hoy en día, los padres de mi generación quieren darles todo sin que ellos hagan nada. Regalos para Navidades, cumpleaños, regalos para los cumpleaños de sus amigos, chocolates y cosas duces cada día que vienen la abuela, mobil si están aburridos y una larga lista.
Nuestra hija major que ha cumplido 8 años recientemente, nos ha pedido que les celebremos su cumpleaños y su madre le ha dicho que se lo celebraría, pero ella tiene que organizar todo. Elegir las actividades, invitar a las personas, hacer la tarta, hacer la compra de la comida y prepartar todo lo necesario para su fiesta y si no era capaz de hacer todo, pues no iba a tener fiesta.
Lista de invitados:
Sofía hizo una lista de sus mejores amigos del colegio, 5 chicas y 2 chicos, y otros amigos fuera del cole. Ella le escribío una carta a cada niño con dibujos y cololes. Cada invitación tenía el número de su madre para que los padres pudieran confirmar asistencia. (Lo que ella no sabe es que de esta forma podemos empezar a conocer a sus amigos del colegio y al mismo tiempo empezamos a conocer a sus padres.)
Las actividades de la fiesta:
Bailar con balones y cuando la música para, lo bailarenes tienen que quedarse quietos. El que se me mueve tiene que explotar su globo y dentro encontra una actividad que debe hacer (Saltar en un pie, hacer un chiste, actuar como tu animal favorito, etc)
Carrera con huevos en una cuchara (actividad por equipo)
Ponerle la cola al burro. (La mejor parta de esta actividad fué que ella misma tenía que dibujar el burro en escala de un niño lo que la ayuda a practicar su técnica de dibujar y a nosotros nos quidó 1 hora sin tener que prestarle atención a nuestros hijas.
Carrera por equipo con bolenes en un plato.
Fotos intantanéas.
Comer la tarta.
Darle golpes a la piñata
Disco
Despedida.
Nada de padres en la fiesta.
Este punto fue ecencial para nosotros porque al no tener que encarnos en atender y escuchar todas las conversaciones raras de padres que se viven quejando, nos pudimos centrarnos en que los niños se lo pasaran bien sin dejar que hagan tonterias por aburrimiento.
No sé si te ha pasado a tí que llegas a la fiesta y los padres creen que su hijo tiene que ganar todos los juegos y ademas que tienes que escuchar 2 o 3 horas de los super inteligente que el niño.
Cuando tengo que hacer acto de presencia por obligación en una de estas actividades mi enfoque prencipal es la mesa de comida, la tarta y un cafe.
Cuando invitas a padres e hijos tienes que pensar en dos tipo de comida, bebidas y dividir tu tiempo en los padres y sus conversaciones aburridas y mirar que haya organización en las actividades de los niños. Ahh y tienes que responder a todos las preguntas del momento.
Conclusión
Tenías que ver como nuestra hija limpiaba la cada, recogía sus juguetes, escribía todas sus ideas y nos consultaba todo para ver qué podía hacer y qué no en su fuesta. Se le veía la motivación y energía que le pónia a cada cosa que le pedía que hiciera.
Al ella tener que pensar en practicamente todo y con las limitaciones que le poníamos tenía que ser muy creativa y desarrollar su capacidad de organización, aprender a solucionar problemas y a pedir ayuda cuando era incapaz de solucionarlo por su cuenta.
Como padre, veo que estamos progresando, pero esto es como la historia que nunca acaba porque esta es mi hija mayor y aun me quedan 2 más en donde vamos a tener que repetir todo el proceso desde el principio una y otra vez.
Si vas a hacer algo parecedo con tu hijo, dedicate a hacerle preguntas y que el o ella busque las respuesta, y evita a todo costa hacerles todo.
Gracias por leer este artículo.
@awildovasquez
As parents, we have to educate, nurture, provide, and prepare our children for the real world, but most of us focus on giving them everything they want without challenging them.
Giving them everything we didn't have gives us personal satisfaction, but is it really what our children need?
I'm from the old school, where my mother told me you have to wash my underwear to learn how to wash my clothes, find a way to earn an honest living, and be independent as soon as possible.
Today, parents of my generation want to give them everything without them doing anything. Gifts for Christmas, birthdays, gifts for their friends' birthdays, chocolates and duces every day that grandma comes, mobile if they are bored and a long list.
Our best daughter, who recently turned 8, asked us to celebrate her birthday and her mother said she would celebrate it for her, but she has to organize everything. She has to choose the activities, invite people, make the cake, buy the food, and prepare everything for her party and if she was not able to do everything, she would not have a party.
Guest list:
Sofia made a list of her best friends from school, 5 girls and 2 boys, and other friends outside of school. She wrote a letter to each child with drawings and pictures. Each invitation had her mother's number on it so the parents could RSVP (what she doesn't know is that this way we can start to get to know her school friends and at the same time we start to get to know her parents).
Party activities:
- Dancing with balls and when the music stops, the dancers have to stand still. Whoever moves has to pop their balloon and inside is an activity to do (jump on one foot, make a joke, act like your favorite animal, etc).
- Race with eggs on a spoon (team activity)
- Pin the tail on the donkey (The best part of this activity was that she had to draw the donkey herself on a child's scale which helps her practice her drawing technique and it took us 1 hour without having to pay attention to our daughters.
- Team race with balloons on a plate.
- Trying pictures.
- Eating the cake.
- Hitting the piñata
- Disco
- Farewell.
No parents at the party.
This point was essential for us because we didn't have to attend and listen to all the weird conversations of parents who are complaining, we could focus on the kids having a good time without letting them do stupid things out of boredom.
I don't know if it has happened to you that you get to the party and the parents think their kid has to win all the games and you have to listen to 2 or 3 hours of the super smart kids.
When I am forced to be present at one of these activities my main focus is the food table, cake, and coffee.
When you invite parents and children you have to think of two types of food, drinks and divide your time between the parents and their boring conversations, and look for organization in the children's activities. Ahh, and you have to answer all the questions of the moment.
Conclusion
You had to see how our daughter cleaned the house, picked up her toys, wrote down all her ideas, and consulted with us to see what she could and couldn't do at her desk. You could see the motivation and energy she put into everything I asked her to do.
With her having to think of practically everything and with the limitations we put on her, she had to be very creative and develop her organizational skills, learn to solve problems, and ask for help when she was unable to solve them on her own.
As a parent, I see that we are making progress, but this is like a never-ending story because this is my oldest daughter and I still have 2 more to go where we are going to have to repeat the whole process from the beginning over and over again.
If you are going to do something like this with your child, dedicate yourself to asking him or her questions and let him or her find the answers, and avoid doing everything to them at all costs.
Thank you for reading my post, @awildovasquez
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This is really lovely. This is a great initiative, an initiative that would give your daughter great motivation and boost to be a great organiser and co-ordinator. For her to plan her own party at this little age, and did extremely well, it means she'd be able to accomplish great things when she grow older. I wish parents can learn from this, as it will not only aid in giving their children wonderful boost and organization, it'll also help them become an effective leader in the future.
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