On Wednesday morning, I read a message that dad passed away.
I didn’t really know what to do other than trying to find a way back home ASAP. So, a little panicky, I booked a train home but I booked a wrong destination. Thankfully, I realized it even though it was more than an hour after booking it. I went right away to the train station to change my schedule and headed back home. It felt really strange because I was already planning to see him in about few days. Later I found, everyone around me felt the same thing, even my siblings wanted to see him all of sudden. But we were all too late, myself included.
Even when I arrived, I heard he was already buried and I went alone to the graveyard. While normally, neighbors who help will wait around for the families or children to arrive, the neighborhood where my dad lives doesn’t want to wait for anyone. The faster the better, that was their motto. It was why even though I was only 3 hours away, they didn’t even wait for me. Thankfully, my youngest sibling was there. She saw dad before they were sending him away for good.
My dad is only 60, such a young age for seniors to have parted early. He lived a good life, a kind of life that never wants to be inconvenience of others. After his retirement, he spent his life quietly, traveled around and tried his best to make amends of his past mistakes.
And despite all the disagreement and conflicts that he and I had, I’d remember all the good parts and cherish the good memories that we had together. Because I think that’s what matter and he deserves that much, to be remembered for all of his good deeds.
These past two days, my hands are a little bit tied. Culturally, we have 7 days to mourn. During those days, usually friends or relatives come to visit. Then, as a host, we have to serve them food and host functions every evening where people come to visit the house to pray for the deceased. So these past two days, the house The house is often busy from early morning to late at night. I didn’t even get the chance to use my phone, laptop or really sit down. It’s why I can’t even say proper thank you to everyone. I soon will. Thankfully at home, we got help from our aunts and uncles to host these guests.
While I am incredibly at loss, a part of me felt relieved that he was freed of his ailment. He no longer had to suffer from his illness that was slowly eating him away. He was freed of the torture fairly quick. I can only hope that he could really rest in peace and be in a better place.
My condolences.
Keep the good times and forget the quarrels.
Lots of encouragement.
Thank you so much. I appreciate it.
This is sad news. It is a good time to be with family and friends to honour his memory. All the best.
Thank you, we still have a few days to mourn. I really hope he can rest in peace.
Condolences to you. It’s a bit surprising the neighbors buried him right away, and that your family, including you, didn’t have time to send him off. Cultural thing in that neighborhood? Anyway I hope you’re alright.
Thank you witty. It's cultural thing over this neighborhood. Everyone is busy and they wanted to send him soon. I was first annoyed because I wanted to see him for the last time but it's okay now. I just hope he's resting in peace. I am still not fine but the living must go on.
Sorry for your loss Mac! It’s never easy to do these things but sadly it happens when we least expect it. Prayers for you and your family!
Indeed, it always happens when we least expected. And thank you, I really hope that he's no longer in pain.
Sorry for your loss, @macchiata 😥
Thank you mipiano. I really appreciate it.
Sorry for your loss, Mac... 😞
Thank you so much. I really appreciate it.
Turut berduka Cem, semoga Beliu diterima disisi Tuhan. 🙏🙏🙏
yang sabr dan tabah ya Cem.
Makasih🙏 semoga papa ku tenang di alam sana.
Again, I am so sorry Mac 🥺💔, I am with you in your pain. Sadly there are some things in life that we will never understand, like why people leave this world so young, but I think that the best explanation is that they deserve a better place, as you said at the end, he came to fulfill his mission and he finished it at that young age. So, the best thing is what you say, keep all the positive memories of him and be sure that from wherever he is he will always guide your steps and now you will have an angel that will take care of you at all times.
Please remember to drink enough water, eat something and rest, in these difficult moments you always forget all that, but we know that your father would not have wanted that but for you to be healthy, please take care of yourself my friend.
Pd. I hug you my dear @macchiata 🫂💞, my English is not very good, but if you want to talk in these difficult moments you can always write to me, I just remind you.
keeping the best memories I had with him is something I plan on doing. We make mistakes in life but that doesn't mean we should forget the good memories. I am trying to take of myself the best of my ability. Haven't slept well these past few days. Thank you Dalla, I really appreciate your concerns and wishes. You too, take care <3
Sorry for your loss, Mac. May your Dad rest in piece.
Thank you Arthur, I really hope he's resting in peace.
My condolences, losing a loved one and even more so when it comes to our parents is hard. Keep the good memories and rest assured that he is in peace and that one day you will be reunited.
I send you a hug from a distance.
Thank you. I hope he's in a better place.
Sorry to hear that. I'm sure he will be missed. Here is a hug for you!
Thank you so much🙏 sorry for the late reply, it's been such a busy time around here.
I'm so sorry 😔, it's good that you focus on the positive things and the good memories ❤️
Indeed, Thank you sorry for the late reply, it's been such a busy time around here.
My condolences to your family Mac. May he rest in peace.
Thank you so much, sorry for the late reply, I've been quite busy IRL🙁
It's fine, Hive things can wait, hope you're you're doing well.
Deepest condolence, may he rest in peace, and please take good care!
Thank you so much, I really appreciate it.
Sorry for your loss, condolences to you and your family. 60 is quite not the age, what illness took him away ?
Sorry for the late reply, I've been quite busy IRL. He had quite a complication from diabetes to kidney failure. It was quite long battle too and I am glad that he's freed from the pain.
This is such sad news. I don't know how well you're taking it but I'm sending all my love and prayers to you and your family in this grieving time. I hope you can find peace, maybe not now, but soon
Thank you @jhymi. I really appreciate it. I am sorry for the late reply,things have been hectic around here.
My condolences, Mac. I know how tough losing close family can be.
Indeed, it was tough but there's always silver lining. I really appreciate your kind words, thank you so much.
My Condolences
May the soul rest in peace
Thank you.
My condolences. Take care!
Thank you relf, I really appreciate it.
I am very sorry to hear that this time is very very very troublesome because a person does not understand what to do because within 2018 my mother also left this world. So there were many sadness in our life.
Thank you, I wish your mother is resting in peace too.
Sorry for your loss, Mac.😢 My condolences.
Thank you jiji
My condolences.
Such a loss is always painful but even more so when life ends at a young age. He was, as you rightly say, still a young man.
We are with you 😞.
Thank you @crptogeek, I really appreciate your kind words. It's much needed this time around.
I am so sorry for your loss, I hug you tightly in the distance, much strength to weigh this great loss.
Thank you so much @fmbs25, sorry for the late reply, I've been quite preoccupied IRL
I'm sorry for your loss. It's so easy to forget any disagreements or arguments in times like this, and only focus on the good and positive side of your relationship.
It must be incredibly difficult, especially making the journey back home alone. It's crazy that you and your siblings all had the unshakable feeling to see him. It's like intuition or something.
It was indeed quite difficult. We can only hope for the best and he can rest in peace.Thank you.
I'm so sorry for your loss. Big hugs
Thank you so much @coquicoin !
Sad news, my condolences. 😢 Remember and hold onto all the good times. I'm sure he's resting in peace now.
I hope he will be & I hope everyone also remember his kindness.
My condolences to you and your family. It's a bit sad to know you were not able to have at least a last glance of him. But knowing that he ia in a better place now, may help with the grief.
Thank you @bluepark, it was something I feel annoyed about. I am just relieved right now he's not in a bad place and is freed from his pain.
So sorry for your loss. I hope you are as OK as can be under the circumstances. Condolences.
Thank you dood, I am holding up, it's just pretty busy these past few days.
Pesame Machiatta, this kind of events always remain in the mind in detail but we all will leave and I think the best relief is that he is no longer suffering, there is no more agony.
He will always be in your heart and in your soul 🙏
Thank you @promete0sz and like you said, I am just glad he's not in any type of pain. He's freed from his pain and that's what matters. Thank you for the kind words.