It's easy for people to judge a book by its cover, simply because they do not have all the facts. Others feel they are too wise to be outsmarted, until it gets to their turn. Hence, the adage, "you'll never know how it feels until you walk in their shoes."
Come grab a seat. Let me tell you a story of someone who used to judge the choice of other people's job that they were settling for less. "It's too tedious," "I can never take shit from my boss," " I can never accept this range of salary" and so on.
This person made others felt like he was earning millions where he worked and almost started making rules for the next person about what to accept and what not.
When life hit him hard, he got down from his high horse and began telling people he was in serious search of a job, after all, we both know the economy isn't smiling.
When an offer came, it was a job lesser than what he had once judged and written off, and he didn't want to be the talk of the town so out of pride he rejected the offer.
A few months later, we heard he had relocated to another area but as God may have it, the same person he had once talked down on because of the job they do, saw him at his new place of work doing the job he had once rejected. (It wasn't something illegal though but the fact he had rubbished the job made him felt ashamed of himself.)
This made me think things through after such a story, that people will always be people. As long as they're not wearing the shoe where it hurts, they might never know the story behind your choices.
That experience in life has thought me a lot and helped me restructure my mind never to judge a situation I've never been in. Most times we feel we just too good for something, but have life sets in, we realise life is very ironic and its not always easy as it seem.
Often time I hear people say "what will people say?" I laugh so hard when I hear people think so much about what people will say about their choices in life.
The question should be "what have they not said?" Talk is free and so people have the right to say anything they deem fit but just wait for it to be their turn and watch them jump on the offer they expected you to reject.
So many people are even wishing to be you at some point in life, so why would I care to be validated by others?
It helped me mentally to develop a thick skin when it comes to the opinions of others about my life choices. I am aware that I take sole responsibility for my actions and choices and every wrong choices comes with a package of consequences.
This too has taught me to make better choices in life, not as a people pleaser but because I deserve happiness and it cost a lot to get it wrong. Hence I go with my Dad's favorite adage. "Measure once, cut twice." Serving as my daily mantra and a reason never to wait for the next person to validate my very existence.
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Amie,
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A lot of people are like this, unfortunately. People often tell me, "You used to be a manager; what are you doing now?" I tell them, at one point, I worked as a house cleaner. I ran the business with my mum, and believe it or not, we earned the same salary as a supervisor in my country. When we were cleaning houses, we split the money evenly between the two of us. We cleaned everything thoroughly, including the toiletsโwhatever was in the house, we made sure it was spotless. Our reviews were always excellent.
Iโve also done stewarding, washing plates for a living, and even factory work in a tree bark factory.
Slowly, I worked my way up to being a waiter, then a barista, then a supervisor, and eventually a manager. After COVID, I had to start over again, but strangely, in the UAE, a waiter earns more than a manager does in Malaysia. The value of work is different in other countries. Iโm honestly just lucky to be here. I have friends in the UAE who invited me over, and without them, I donโt know what wouldโve happened to me.
Anyway, Iโm rambling. What Iโm trying to say is: respect others. One day, if youโre ever down, theyโll be the ones willing to help you get back up.
I'm glad this article resonates so well with you and your feedback is highly valued. Thank you so much.
You're welcome Amie ๐
Isn't one of the verses from the Bible saying: "Don't judge as you will be judged..." But, we humans always judge others, their choices, or our choices... I remember that in one part of my life, I was trying not to judge anything and anyone... Unfortunately, that's a mission impossible, but we can stop shaming others for their choices, just because we have a choice... Many times, people don't have a choice, like your friend from your story, and you have to do what you have to do... And that's fine...
But, we should always work on ourselves and try to CREATE choices so that we CAN pick what we like... I know that I said this many times, but I'm so grateful for crypto as it gave me the CHOICE to opt out from fiat, which I didn't have before...
Thanks for sharing this story! As you can see, it moved a lot of my gray cells... lol... Sorry for the long comment... ๐
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Yeah, we can just stop shaming others for their choices and we too should know when we deserve better. Your heartfelt comment gladdened my heart. I appreciate you so much. Cheers!
Listening to what people will or will not say is the first attempt to suicide. You've said it all, just live the life the best way ya can
That's right. We don't need people's validation to be happy.
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You have said it all. Thank you for this๐
Thanks for reading.