My friend lost her dad recently and it shattered her heart.
I was in school yesterday when she called explaining everything that happened before her father finally kicked the bucket and immediately, my whole mood was ruined.
I couldn't concentrate in class, And I know how it feels. I have been there before, to watch your loved one slip off your hands and there's absolutely nothing you can do.
As I drove home, I thought of ways to help her and decided to do this for a period of one month. Call her everyday and say something kind to her to make her feel lighter.
I called her this morning and we spoke at length. She didn't even allow me speak because she kept expressing how hurt she was. Then I realized, I didn't need to say anything after all. Being a listener is even more important than always wanting to talk.
I understood all she wanted was to be heard and not interrupted and if possible, a shoulder to cry on.
After carrying out my house chores, I left home for her place and she was more than excited.
Her face beamed with joy. I sat right next to her and listened all over to everything she had to say.
After a while, she took a deep breath with a smile. I'm very certain it meant a lot to her.
I've made plans to call her tomorrow morning as well and just be a friend who sticks closer in times of need.
I know, no one really gets over grief as I've been there before. Time can't even heal the hurt we feel inside, it only teaches us to live without them.
For everytime we hear their name, see their picture or think of them, we shed a tear because they are just irreplaceable.
Kindness is all we need in the world right now. There's so much chaos going on and all that can make us sane is being kind to anyone we meet out there.
Staying connected to people we love too can help them cope with their anxieties or burden in their heart.
A simple gesture, short text with lots of beautiful words, daily affirmations, sharing memes or even what you think is insignificant can go a long way to make them feel lighter.
Visiting and enjoying the moment with them makes them feel loved and valued. Let's live and let others find peace around us too.
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Amie,
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You are doing the best thing Amie. Being able to listen is a gift. I remember someone once saying, if you don't know what to say, then don't say anything. If the person who is grieving wants to talk they will.
That's true. We don't always have to talk, listening is also soothing.
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Its a heart break my father inlaw called the the day he died sounded so healthy and warm, we joked and laugh and by evening i heard he was dead. the memory still lingers in my mind. please be there for her
Oh no, so sorry to hear that. sending you a virtual hug
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I have been there, I'm still healing.. may the Lord comfort her family. Just be a shoulder she can lean on for as long as she want to because some people take long to accept reality
Hmmm, it is well.
Your presence made her smile, keep up the good work.
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