Yes to all of these! #1 is especially important for me, personally. People can be VERY adept at hiding who they are with words but, given enough time, they never fail to reveal their true selves through their actions.
Also, complaining about past partners is a huge red flag for me...especially if a person has a long string of similar experiences/stories. In retrospect if I were to have recognized this red flag when I was younger I would have been spared so many hard lessons. Usually the more a person does this the less self-aware they are and it's an accurate indicator of how problematic your relationship with them is going to be (get ready to be blamed for absolutely everything). Lol.
Great contribution to Memoir Monday my friend! Thanks!
Makes sense to be a red flag. Shows they aren't looking inwards as well and would rather blame someone else. Definitely going to be problematic. Yeesh! And people do reveal themselves eventually. The good ones, too - they turn out even better than they'd claim.
Exactly! The mask comes off eventually, even if it's just through their actions.
Huge red flag and a sneaky one, too. I think we write it off wanting to see the best in people and never consider they might be the same way to us.
Thanks for the great topic!
It's so sneaky that it took me like three decades to figure out. : ) You're welcome, thanks for joining in!
My hubs did talk about an ex that hit him over the head with a frying pan .. sometimes I can see why.
Lol, a frying pan would definitely get your attention.