If you're presenting yourself with confidence, you can pull off pretty much anything. -Katy Perry
Do we really need to live in a culture where looks matter? Are we exactly where we want to be? Or still, want to be somewhere else? Do we have to change for the good of others or for the good of ourselves?
Simple questions, yet, seemingly hard to answer. And it's understandable because most of us chose to live our lives to satisfy other people's expectations rather than be ourselves. We tend to focus on what other people might think about us and so we live in fear of being disliked, and uncertain of what we should look like. Thus, unknowingly, we are depriving ourselves of the very basic definition of life's happiness, contentment, and success.
A happy and contented life should not be confined to what others might think of us. Success should not be measured by how much do we have and how other people look at us. Rather, it is how we know ourselves and how we project ourselves, how we want to show the world who we are.
If we try to look around us, we can see nature in its simplicity yet, majestic and elegant. Pity you, if the only thing that you can see is its beauty. For everything around us are lessons, and stories being told in silence by the winds that only a few among us can appreciate. And that goes the same with us no matter how old you are.
Not everyone can see the beauty that we are inside. What they only see is the outside appearance that we show them. An appearance that most of the time is just for us to fit in the box. An appearance that is expected by society to see. We dress according to the standards that society set. An unwritten style rules out there defined what we are supposed to wear based on the set of cultural norms and expectations, and in order to fit in, we need to satisfy those rules.
But do we really have to follow those style rules to fit in? Do we really have to fit in in order to be happy? Or are we breaking off with styles and living the way we wanted to live?
Do you really know who you are inside? Have you tried to answer the question "Who am I? and how do you want to show up to the world? Can you see and celebrate your own beauty?
There is this inside-out-congruency that I learned in one of the videos that I watched. It says that inside-out congruency can never be defined by any box, or cultural norms, and expectations that are designed by somebody else. It is a style that only matches your inside and out, the unique you.
That is why it is important for you to know who you really are, for you to dress up that matches who you are inside and out and not just what the people around you expect you to wear. Because if we really try to fit in or squeeze ourselves into those boxes it will hinder us from being happy, and mind you, those boxes out there are endless.
And if you really want to know where to find that inside-out congruency. Start looking inside you, not the exhausted you, not the worn-out you, not the stressed you, but start looking at the real you, the essence of you.
“There is a place in you that has never been wounded where there is still a sureness in you, where there is a seamlessness in you, and where there is a confidence and tranquility in you.” - John O’Donohue, poet and philosopher
That is where you should look because there is somewhere in you that is still untouched.
And if you wonder where you will find that answer to the question, "Who am I?" Try to connect to that part of you and define it. That is where you'll find the answer.
Then go to your closet and only choose the clothes that can connect you to who you really are, and present yourself to the world with confidence and joy of who you really are. That is also when you can celebrate your own beauty. And that is where your confidence will come from.
That is how I want to dress up. That is how I wanna show up to the world. How about you?
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I have worn dresses before 🤣🤣🤣
Played football like that for charity :)
which reminds me... you promised that you'll gonna look for those photos so you can show it to me :)
oh I need to do to that somehow
yep yep... you said its in one of your boxes
Oh gosh! I need to look at that pics 😂
And you know @tengolotodo I don't easily forget some things so look for that box. 😆😆
hahahahaa same here sis! especially when its a promised haha
Agree, sis! A promise should always be honored
@tengolotodo keep in mind that those who don't keep their promises sometimes have to sing 🤣🤣😂😂
haha too busy doing dreemport 🤣🤣🤣
Jaja! listillo!
Let me start with this, I love that quote from katyperry.
This isn't wrong, it takes a conscious decision to firmly be balanced and not try to please others and displease oneself.
They hit the right spot.
No doubt, it's all begins with knowing who we are, that's the only way we can be ourselves and be true to ourselves.
Thanks for sharing this lovely piece.
By the way, if you are participating in the dreemport challenge, don't forget to completely drink 50 oz of water today.🙂
Thanks @jessicaossom! Yep we have to know ourselves for us to have confidence on who we really are.
Yep I do! And thanks for the reminder. Will do and hey keep doing great! And don't forget to check on your partner too 😉
I was like this ages ago. I wanted to please everybody that is why I tend to change myself according to what people would like to see, and it drained the living hell out of me. Now, I have learned to live my life according to what makes me happy. 💚
yep... pleasing everybody can really drain you, and definitely not good for ourselves too because it creates negative effects on us. thanks for dropping @justklaire!
I feel you were right in front of me and speaking these words sis! I love how strong you came with this one. It takes courage to let go of other people's expectations of us and just be and do what makes us happy❤
yes sis it really is, pleasing everyone will not do us any good, it will only make us feel worst of ourselves.
I decided to do that a long time ago, sister. And I am happy the way I am.
I live in a society where too much value is placed on physical appearance. And that leads nowhere a lot of the time.
xoxo
that's true sis... it's happier when you don't care about what people will say to you. when you are only thinking of what will make you happy :)
Absolutely, sis! We should always please ourselves in the first place! 😘
I was carried away by the feeling, after I read to the end it turned out to be just dressing up.
Great, your writing can hypnotize and really entertain me.
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Glad that you are entertained and you enjoyed it... It serves its purpose then ☺️
It’s hard to let go of other’s expectations of you and just do what suits you but once you are able to let go....you will actually live life!
This was amazing to read!
Thanks for dropping by. And you are right, it is happier when you are not thinking about the expectations or what the.other people wants.
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how would this world be without mirrors and photoraphy, something I often thought about
@dreemsteem sent me here :-)
hello @beeber! thanks @dreemsteem for sending beerber here!
I can't imagine the world without mirrors and photography anymore. and I wonder how do they live centuries ago without those things.
And since you are here already! let me check on you too! hahaha, hope you are having that 20 mins quiet time. and don't forget that water you know our body badly needed whether we have hot weather or a cold one. :)
Here is a nice post.
You've just gave insight on cloth and individual.
How is the challenge going
Don't forget to observe your quite time
It is sure needed for a healthy state of mind.
hi @ijohnsen! thanks for the visit!
yep! i usually have a quiet time in the morning and before I sleep so I'm done this morning and will have another one later.. what about you? how's it going?
Have you posted in dreemport already?
It been cool..
Working on a post.
Do have a lovely day ahead.