My parents would always advise when we were kids that we should avoid arguments and fights; that whenever we're headed that way, we should find a way around to avoid getting in the crossfire. And so I continually tread that path of mind-my-business. But the truth about steering clear wasn't even only about crossfires.
If you have ever seen two people argue so passionately about sports, you probably hardly ever find a winner in such heated discussions. It even gets hotter if it's about their favorite teams. In each person's mind, they are right and "know what they are talking about," whether or not they have facts.
Unconsciously, sometimes they begin a quest to win the other person over to their side—to concede. The reality, however, is that everyone usually returns the same way they came in this type of interaction.
The feeling of realizing one is wrong is hardly pleasant. To say and stand by one thing only to be proven wrong can be humiliating. It is so because, to be proven otherwise, it can sometimes sound like, "You're of low intellectual capabilities." And no one likes to feel that way. Hence, in an argument, each party is usually fighting to death in a bid to protect their intellectual integrity. This is why you can never win an argument.
Say you actually provide undeniable proof of your own argument and are able to debunk the other person's in such a way that is irrefutable, you might very well be able to get them to keep shut, but make no mistake to consider this a win. The other person conceding doesn't exactly mean abdicating their stand. In their minds, they probably still stand by their original argument, and you'd have only made one less friend at best and an enemy at worst. This is why you can never win an argument.
In many ways, we do this. It doesn't have to be a full-blown argument with people shouting at the top of their voices. Perhaps in a conversation with a colleague or friend and they turned out to be totally wrong about something to you, or someone elderly to you, pointing out their flaws and mistakes, especially ever so often, and even turning it into friction between you both isn't the way to go.
Allowing them to save face, especially if it's public, could be a much better move. If need be to actually address anything, it doesn't have to be in the moment, and approaching it constructively and tactfully is wise.
People will always remember how you make them feel, remember. You can't win in an argument. What are your thoughts?
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Argument is a waste of time and energy, it so useless when you are now arguing with someone who will never want to understand that is glued to what he or she believes, so I don't think arguing is something I should get involved with.
Winning an argument should never be a thing. Even if I win, I feel emotionally drained.
I agree with this so much. Good to read your writing.
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Greetings. Once I realized that the conversation has gotten into another leg, I will simply stop saying a thing, I do not like arguing as well, if keeping shut will make the person win, so be it.
But it's true with what you said, when a party that was involved in the argument keep shut, it does not really mean he has admit that he/she was wrong, so if I want to let someone know a thing, I do not go through argument, as it does not help.
I also have the idea of keeping to myself. I avoid arguments as much as possible, although it's not always possible to get away from them, but what I usually do is try to have a good conversation, without getting carried away and trying to show real proof of what I stand for. When someone tries to convince me of something, I don't usually give in at first, but if they show me real, compelling evidence, I end up accepting that they're right.
Argument means waste of my time and I try to avoid it fully. If I go for an argument, I must have good knowledge about the topic and be capable enough to fully win and crash(mentally) the opponent. I think I am merciless in this case and sometimes my father also becomes a victim of it when it comes to politics although it happens in rare cases. In the case of sports, I never go for arguments and if someone wants to go for arguments with me I accept my defeat in the first sentence as I don't want to go for arguments which is not profitable.