When it comes to friendships and relationships, there is something that I have noticed is missing in some of these friendships and relationships and that vital ingredient is UNDERSTANDING.
I read a book that spoke primarily on friendships and the author mentioned that a lot of friendships do not stand the test of time because ‘friends’ do not take the time and effort to commit to knowing each other for compatibility's sake.
People get together in the name of friendships and relationships without properly getting to know themselves better. I have been in situations where I have had to face the cold hard truth about how some so-called “friends" feel about each other and it is baffling.
Why are you friends with someone you obviously do not like?
Why choose to pretend to love and adore that person when it is not genuine?
These are the questions that run through my mind whenever I think of such scenarios and I realize that it never always ends well for both parties involved.
It always results in a fall out so bad that it takes years to recover from the trauma of violently separating from someone.
People tend to pretend a lot and the same is for friendships. In order to seek validation from the public or one's peers individuals can go as far as befriending people that they wouldn't even bear to sit in the same room with all in the name of friendships.
Among my coursemates in university, everyone divided themselves into cliques and everyone stuck to their cliques. Among the various cliques in the class, there was this particular clique that consisted of girls only. They were pretty tight as friends, they would come to classes together and go home together and this went on throughout our freshman year until sophomore year when one of them decided to let out all of the secrets that they shared.
Apparently, one of the girls didn't like any of them at all and she made it known in subtle ways even while befriending them. It was said that she would always try to put them against each other for her personal reasons and they collectively noticed that behavior, so they began to pull away from her.
They were not expecting her to retaliate in the way that she did. In fact, no one in the class was expecting her to act the way that she did. The girl in question became best friends with another girl from another clique and spilled all the secrets from her previous clique to the new girl and we all know sometimes secrets spread like wildfire.
A lot of things were let out to the whole class and it was such a big deal that other levels in my department and even other departments in the faculty heard about the whole matter.
The girls whose secrets were leaked decided to fight back by leaking her secret openly in the class group chat which then led to a very big fight and the authorities got involved and they all got arrested by the school authorities.
It was a crazy semester as the issue did not die naturally and peacefully. They went back and forth at each other for the rest of the semester and it was really, really sad.
These were the same girls that were inseparable during our first year. What happened along the way? We will never know. But one thing I am sure of is that they all knew that they did not really understand each other deeply because if they did have proper understanding of themselves it would have reflected in their actions.
This incident led me to really think about myself and my friends. I had to ask myself a lot of deep questions that would help me check if I am being truthful with a friend and if I am not and vice versa.
I value friendships and relationships a lot and it would really hurt me if I had a huge fight with my friends that's bad enough to traumatize us. I prioritize quality friendships by taking the time to really observe and understand those that I call my friends and I don't have a lot of friends.
I am quite friendly but I prefer to choose who I let into my life, keeping my circle very small.
Your thoughts are highly appreciated..
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Well that's very true, people do pretend to be friends with someone which deeply they don't like those people. Meanwhile this issue really persist among women😁
I like your writeup 👍
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Men, what a story. I wonder what the secrets in question are for the school authorities to get involved, and you say they arrested the girls. Did they kill anybody?
But then regarding the sudden change in their closeness, I'm not surprised. People are strange and you'd be surprised how much pretence goes in societal settings.
Nobody was killed.
The girl that snitched on her friends reported them for spreading rumors about her and they got arrested.
Oh okay
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