Damn! What a more than nice, aptly-put and we-think-alike read. It's annoying that it has so many words ONLY because I'd have loved to respond to every sentence. Haha! It'd be like making a whole new post. Maybe I will. Oh and it's hilarious too, the way you've rendered it 😂.
I did copy a couple of paragraphs though which I strongly agree with you on and which greatly depicts how it is in my own mind and may respond to, but generally, naaa, it's not because you don't believe in the Institution of the church, and may not know how it works, it is just the way you see it and that's the way it should be. I'm Catholic.
I have in the past, and if I hadn't, I wouldn't feel comfortable accusing the man of sexual assault the next day. In some situations, I realize, in retrospect, that I shouldn't have encouraged certain actions or behaviors. I've since come to change my mind about those situations, but I firmly believe they were and remain my fault.
Strongly agree! This is true for me too.
Contrary to popular belief, it doesn't seem obvious to me that a woman should automatically be believed innocent and pristine simply because of her sex. First of all, I find it insulting. Like any quality worth its salt, that should be earned, not given freely.
Had this conversation about 3 weeks ago or so, and made comments on this on Twitter too. It's mind boggling really that men are, as you've put it, guilty by default, and women are exonerated and pitied for the sole reason that they're that. Women.
This is really what feminism should be inclusive of but these women that are steady tarnishing our image would only pick out the favorable and selfish parts of feminism, if what they believe and practice can even be termed that, and then throw the real deal out...
I'd rather spare you a long read and end by telling you how appreciative of this post I am. I hope you can tell.
Cheers!
Yes, I can definitely tell. Oh wow, thank you, I'm glad this resonated so much.
Brave of you. I write on similar topics on Medium, and frankly, I've been astonished how quick to name-call and attack people are, especially on this subject. I had someone call me a "gatekeeper for the patriarchy" simply for suggesting that women ought to review their expectations, and what they bring to the table, before expecting a man to have everything.
Doesn't that sound like the most anti-feminist thing in the world, though? It's so sad, how so many women don't realize they're actually working against themselves by being "modern day feminists".
Honestly, it scares me. Because it creates the very real possibility that at some point in the future, these extremists will have gone so far that society might actually say "you know what, we've had enough of feminism". I mean, we're seeing a counter-feminist movement today, and it's not stoked by cavemen hating on women, rather by vitriolic women trying to destroy men. Terrifying implications there.
Gatekeeper for patriarchy? 😂 OMG people are useless!
It doesn't just sound like it, it is what it is. Over here we call them "Nigerian delusional feminists". I'd rather not describe what they do as remotely relating to feminism though 🙄. According to African writer, Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, it's just a bunch of wicked women hating men disguising as feminists. It's saddening really.
And scary too. I do hope true feminism overshadows their gimmicks and keeps on keeping on.
I hope so, too. And thanks, I'll check out that writer :)
😎 You're most welcome.