Courtship is a process every intending couple should pass through before deciding to tie the knot. Courtship basically involves getting close to each other and knowing each other intimately in other to ascertain if the two of you can come together as spouses.
It is during the time of courtship that we get to know the type of people our potential partners are and whether it's worth it to build a life together. Hastiness or getting it wrong at this stage can lead to tons of regrets later in marriage.
And science had taught is that we can fall in love with wrong people. So it is paramount to determine if your love interest is worth settling together with because marriage is a lifetime commitment and mistakes should be avoided at all costs.
In this post, we consider ways to know you are about to build a life with the wrong partner. Remember, as a young person, marriage may not be due for you In a couple of years but getting these pieces of knowledge can help prepare you for that time whenever it comes. Without further ado let's get down to business.
9 Signs You Are Courting The Wrong Person.
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9. You Don't Feel Happy When You Guys Are Together
Thus is a major red flag you should watch out for in courtship. You should be always happy when you see or come together with your intended partner. If you find you are unhappy being with them then end the relationship at once. He or she is not the one for you.
8. Delay In Introducing Them To Family And Friends
Another unmissable red flag. If you don't feel proud and joyous enough to introduce your future partner to your loved ones, then you two are not meant to be together.
7. Complaint From Loved Ones
<span style="font- style="font-family:Arial,sans-serif">If this happens you may need to reconsider your relationship with that person. If your family and friends don't accept your future spouse as wholeheartedly as you then it's a negative sign that it may not work out between the both of you. This is not the case of loved ones refusing both of you from settling down together because of financial statuses or family background etc but when they express the view that they don't find both of you compatible enough to establish a happy marriage together.
6. If You Keep Wishing They Were A Better Version Of The Themselves
Marriage is built in such a way that we accept the person we are to wed wholeheartedly, I mean both their weak and strong points. If you ever keep wishing your intended was better this or that way, it's a sign you have not accepted them wholeheartedly and that you too are not meant for each other. It's okay for you to want your partner to improve this or that way, but you will happily work together to make them better and not getting worried over that.
5. Experiencing Emotional Burnout With Them
Emotional burnout means when a relationship emotionally causes you exhaustion. Whenever you spend time together instead of feeling refreshed and happy you feel emotionally drained and stressed. If this happens to you during courtship what do you think will happen when you both get married?
4. Manifestations Of Self-centeredness
Another toxic quality to watch out for when you are courting. Does he or she seem to only or largely focus on themselves and not you? They rarely listen to you talk but are always speaking? Then it is a sign you are about to enter the wrong marriage.
3. Excessive Focus On Sensuality
If the major thing that drives your relationship is sex then make a turn around. When you are with the person you are always thinking of sexual indulgences. You two rarely focus on planning for your future together. Discussing important issues about your life together, then it a sign you are going down the wrong path.
Sex is good and a part of every successful relationship but it should never be a major focal point for any relationship.
2. You Are Not Yourself When You Are Around Them
One good sign that we are courting the right person is that we feel completely relaxed when we are together with them. We are ourselves, we don't have to change who we are to please them. Once you find out that whenever you are around the person you are wanting to get wedded to that you gave to either change your tone, or change your gait or you are especially nervous about what to wear each time just to please them, then they are not the right partner for you.
1. They Don't Accept You For Who You Are
If your would be partner is always complaining about how you do things or about you are constantly demand you change this or that and they don't accept you as you are then please back out of that relationship at once. Even if they demand you drop a bad character or habit they will do it with love and be more than willing to help you change.
Conclusion
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Remember, marital regrets are the worst to endure. Making the right decision in marriage will bring you untold happiness and fulfilment while getting it wrong can ruin your life, live you in lifelong regrets, and maybe even negatively affect the lives of your children. So take your time to get it right, it will be worth it in the end.
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Thank you so much for sharing this tips. They’re really helpful. Taking your time before going into marriage is important, most people become victims of domestic violence due to lack of courtship before getting married.
@sabrinah, thank you for reading my post and I am glad you got value from it. Indeed marriage is a complicated institution and we should do our best to avoid mistakes when we are ready to enter it. Thanks also for your positive feedback and the support. They mean a lot.
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You are accurate with this list. If you are with someone and have as little a doubt or cannot be your authentic self, then you need to have a self check.
On the other hand, I don't very well agree with point 8. My argument is that a person might not want to introduce their partner to their family because they want to be sure about where their relationship is headed. This is not enough an excuse but still...
Also, maybe the person had had to introduce their ex(s) in the past and it did not work out. For fear of what might be, they may choose to thread cautiously.
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Beautifully put and well said. With the decision of marriage, one can never be too careful. Merry Christmas 🎄