You are right, it doesn't take anything from me, but neither does it add especially when you say it to someone who doesn't deserve it.
I run away from hurting people not because find it hard to say I am sorry but because I know what it feels like to be hurt by someone you trusted and most times "I am sorry" can never heal you or make the friendship with that person the same.
I mean, why destroy or hurt friendships with people who have been by my side all the years only to tell them "I am sorry" and expect the friendship to go back to the way they were, I know that most times, "I am sorry" can not heal us, neither can it restore the friendship destroyed as a result of hurt, so instead of hurting and coming to say "I am sorry", I rather choose not to hurt them and if they choose to hurt me, I then know how to take it up from there, but I try as much as possible not to hurt them and believe that those I call friends wouldn't either.
It's just a simple thing, "I think carefully before I act, and make sure to put myself in their shoes, to see how I would react when someone I call a friend harms me"
Indeed "One day monkey go go market e no go come back" That's why I say I am sorry only when I hurt someone, and when I do, it is genuinely an act of remorse. This most times does not happen deliberately and once I am aware, I show the person that I am sorry and remorseful about it. I could go to any lent to show them, person, how sorry I am because I know I can not be at peace when I hurt someone who didn't do anything to me.
If I hurt anyone, and do not show remorse about it, I bet you it is a conscious act, it is mostly a deliberate act of retaliation and it is me paying them back, it is me giving them a dose of their medicine, so monkey no dey go anywhere, we dey dere and we die dere together. 😉 you get 😊.
Thank you