Love is a beautiful thing, it's one of the things that will hurt you and make you swear never to do it again yet make you happy whenever you are able to find another.
I have so many experiences when it comes to love, sometimes I feel so bad over it but sometimes I feel lucky to have such privilege.
Many people say that "Love is not all about money," but I have a different view on that. Actually money is supposed to be love but things have changed. Without a touch of money in love, love will not stand.
Reflecting on my past relationships brought so many memories, some triggered regrets, some smiles, and some pains.
One of the outstanding lessons I learned from my past relationships is "Don't love when you don't have money."
I am not saying you need to accumulate all the money in the world first, no, what I mean is if you don't have enough money to attend to some of your partner's needs, especially as a man don't try love.
No matter how much a lady loves you, if you continually remain unsupportive financially a point will reach where she will change towards you.
I noticed that in relationships one of the things that brings respect is not love, it's one's ability to take responsibility. Many people say "Women love money, women ask for money a lot," no doubt some women are like that but some are not.
Some only need a little assistance from you and if you are able to meet up with it, they will make you their king. It makes them feel safe and have that confidence that they can lean on you.
If you are not sure you are that financially capable don't ask any lady out for a relationship. If not you will end up hurting yourself, it's just a matter of time.
I had this relationship, the lady loved me but each time she asked for some financial assistance I don't use to come through for her. Honestly, then life was really difficult for me. She kept on enduring until it got to the point where she began to disrespect me and say bad things to me. We had to break up along the line.
I had many relationships that ended because of the same thing. Now, was the lady bad? No. A man who can't provide even if it's little for his girl might not also be able to take responsibility if something should happen. It's not her fault that you are in your current situation.
Love isn't about money but when a little money comes in, it makes the equation balanced. However, support is supposed to be from both sides and it doesn't have to be something that is held as priority. If demands become too much it kills relationships and if there is no support at all it also kills relationships.
After getting this lesson, I am more careful about love. The last relationship I had was one of a kind even though it ended but I enjoyed the relationship, I applied that very principle and things moved perfectly.
Even though no relationship is assured to last forever, each of them comes with lessons and if we are careful enough to learn from our mistakes then certainly things will improve in those areas.
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Perhaps this is because men should be the provider. Women gives up because if man cannot sustain her during the boyfriend/girlfriend time, how can his man provide when they already had kids to sustain?
These days, a woman can provide for her own but it doesn't erase the fact the men needs to provide also
As a man taking responsibility is a must. I don't blame some ladies for crying out when there is zero support from their partner even after being together for long
I have seen women who take responsibility for their needs too and I love it yet if she is in a relationship, she will definitely get to a point where she will need her partner's support.
I suppose men will need support from their woman too, relationship is building each other , and building dreams to reality
Sure, you just balanced the equation, hehehe. Thanks a lot much for the amazing chitchat 😉🥰
In the past, I believed that love was enough until I begin to experience a lot about relationships
If a man can't take up responsibility whenever it surfaces, hmmm, the love no matter how much it is...may be going down. So it's a nice lesson u learned, things needs to be balanced for us to enjoy our relationships
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Hmm, experience is indeed the best teacher. I am glad I discovered this on time.
Wow good to know you learnt from the relationship. You outlined vital points of which I Concord with you.
Hehe, thanks so much for stopping by sir..
This is all facts you have stated here. When I talk about guys who go into marriage without enough funds and source of income, some people look at me like i would marry late cos I am looking for rich man. Does love means sufferness, do I have to suffer just bcos I want to marry? Why alot of girls made their mistakes. Age doesn't determine marriage but achievement.
This a bitter truth. Though achievement in this case doesn't necessarily mean accumulating millions but having something that can sustain your family.
Thanks a lot for the beautiful comment
Eiiiiiiii, I understand you. Just live your life and be happy biko. Your woman will love you nevertheless
She won't o.. I have tried it before, I know what I am talking about
That's serious