"Our prime purpose in this life is to help others if you can't help them at least don't hurt them"
Dalai lama
Helping people out is one of the most essential things to do in life but many helpers do come to the realization that many people don't seem to reciprocate the help. They tend to go away when you now have nothing to offer.
What I would really consider is making sure I am financially stable and not going about doing cash spree when I know I haven't done things for myself that will bring in more of what I will be giving out, it's just spending wisely.
I have heard so many stories of people having a lot of money and always giving out to people, they can even risk the last penny just to give out to people but once they go broke they have no one to help them. One certain thing is that " if you're always there for others then in time of need, someone will be there for you".
A friend in a big business firm helped his friend get a job in the same firm, after some time the friend conspired with others to bring him down and they succeeded, he later found out that his friend was a big part in his downfall, he now knew that some people are not worth helping and there are boundaries you should set when helping, luckily he was able to secure a better job, as we do say "the fall of a man is not the end of his life".
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There are discouragements that comes with helping others, people come day after day seeking for financial help. The state the country is now, many people are not financially stable because the transport fare to your workplace has doubled up but the salary is still the same, people are struggling out there to get a meal, and you're also on your end struggling to get what to eat, if they come to ask for a little help you have othee option than to turn down since you're in the same state, but you'll be bothered by that.
Points I tend to set boundaries
We have learnt a lot already in life and we can't just give out everything we are asked, there are boundaries we have to set to also help us grow stable financially.
I set these boundaries when
I am not financially stable: Many people tend to risk it all by giving out their last penny, but they will be struggling financially after giving.
The Request is too excessive: some people ask too much, and what they seem to use it for doesn't yield much positive income
it becomes a habit: people make it an habit to keep asking for money and they don't tend to use it meaningfully which means they will come back for more, so it becomes an habit.
When turning down someone's financial request, the tone and approach plays a very vital role on the outcome, if you turn down someone harshly it might hurt the person, but a calm response would be okay.
Turning down someone's request doesn't make you a selfish or stingy person, it makes sure you keep being financially stable
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These reasons are valid! People can be tricky and even take one’s generosity for granted.
Love the quote above… at least don’t hurt them!!🌹
For real 🫢
Don't hurt them
Thank you
You are extremely right. When turning down people who seek help just because of the boundaries you have set or rules you have within you at that particular time, you just have to be true in your tone instead of bringing harsh.
Yes, the tone gives your reaction towards it.
Thank you