I thought hard about this before I began to write. Because everyone knows that you know something till you're asked a direct question about it, right? It's like when you are asked in front of a panel of interviewers to explain to them who you are and all of a sudden, you have no idea who you are. Hehe.
So, that's how this felt for me. All of a sudden, I had no idea what the answer to the question was even though it should be the simplest question to answer. This week, the Hive Naija community wantto a know:
It's normal for family members to have a common trait, right? Share with us that common trait in your family and how you feel about having that particular trait in common with every member of your family.
And I thought very hard. What is that one family trait that all of us have? And when I say all of us, I mean frommy Mom all the way down to my siblings. My Dad didn't use to have this trait but I guess after so many years, he has gotten it too. I realized as I said this, what that common trait is.
I never knew what this trait was till secondary school why my friends asked why I randomly looked at people like that. "Like what?" I'd ask. And they tried to explain it as a look like I was looking dead into someone's soul. Like I was judging their entire existence with my eyes. I laughed it off and told them to stop being dramatic.
Over the years, I began to see the truth to that when more and more of my friends would say the same thing. One day, while I was conversing with one of my friends, she suddenly said, "Pause and maintain that expression!" I was confused but I did as she said. And then she brought a mirror to show me how I looked. True true guys, I do have judgy eyes. Like I was so surprised to see how accurate their description was.
My face was stoic but my eyes were piercing. It was a huge discovery for me. But then I did not know what to do about it. I assured my friends amidst the general laughter that it was not intentional and I did not realize when I was doing it.
It wasn't until a few of my friends came to visit me at my family house that the narrative changed. Suddenly, these friends of mine met my Mom and my sisters and soon enough, they exclaimed that they now understood why I couldn't change that look no matter how hard I tried and that's because everyone in my household practically had that same look at different points. I began too see it as well as they said it and we all laughed about it. I'm guessing it's from my Mom but she keeps denying it. Lol.
Concerning how I feel about it, I don't think there's much to feel. It's certainly nice to know I that I'm not a terrible person and that it is not something that can be helped. It's not like I'm glaring or giving anyone a nasty look, it's just.....judgy, I guess? Lol. Plus it certainly helps that I'm barely saying or doing anything and whoever I'm conversing with goes, "Okay I've heard, you don't need to look at me like that." And me I won't correct you that I did nothing. The bad side to everyone in my family having this look is that....everyone has the look. So if you like, give the look from now till tomorrow, no one is fazed, let alone intimidated.
So yeah, that's about it. The trait I share with everyone in my family. The look that makes people quiver. Just kidding, it's not that deep. Or is it? Lol
Jhymi
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I think the image expresses the judgy look. But since it is biological, there's nothing to worry about. I also have my mom's eyes and its been said so many times from both my male and female friends that I gaze at them in a seductive way which wasn't my intention at all.
But when they see my mom that's when they realize it wasn't intentional but something that's within the family. Even my brother has the same eyes. We all have so many features that sometimes communicate something we never meant to communicate, but that doesn't mean we have to hate it or beat ourselves up for having them.
Wow, first off. Please put that in a post. I'd love to read from you and discover the other traits. Maybe send out a tag to me when you do?✨
And now, I've successfully added you to the list of men on Hive to avoid. Please oo, I won't be able to stand if that's your own trait.😂
I assumed "The Look" is the bombastic side eye African mums give you as a subtle way to tell you "Boy you better act right" when guests are around.😂😂😂
I was thinking you'd show it to us at least. Give us an illustration so that when we meet in Naija, we won't be fazed when we get it😂
It is the bombastic side eye of the more menacing kind. People old and young be quivering.😂
Don't worry when you come, you'll change my name from Tess to Charm. I'll be way too nice.😂
First of all: you look absolutely beautiful, I can't believe is the first time I'm seeing your pretty face..
Second of all: please don't stay anonymous and please again, be posting more of you so we get to see and admire this incredible beauty😊😊
Eiiii.... I'm not blushing at all.🥹
Thank you, dear. I hope you're doing alright.
But it's good as I'm dropping the face once in a blue moon so you people don't get tired of me.😂
We won't get tired of this look.. Never
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Shey you see what I was trying to avoid? See those people in your comment now calling you chocolate and caramel? Shey you’re seeing. Me won’t say anything… na to just carry gun dey waka up and Dan😑🚶🏿♀️➡️
Sorry, babes. I'm sure they didn't mean to.🥺
Let me go and fight them. 😂☹️
Nye nye nye!
Oga!
Oga how?! You want me to hold that your neck?!
Person wife😭😭😭😭
You wan hold man neck😭😭😭😭😂😂
I no understand 😂
Carry Gun dey waka😂😂😂
Old soldier, mopol😭😭😂😂😂
You no go do marchpast for independence?😂
You way be like ostrich. Na just to fall you make your neck way be like Indomie crash for ground 😑
Okay na😂😂😂
We'll see😂😂
Hmm, What were you doing in this picture 🤔. It looks familiar.
I've seen that trait unconsciously countless times, didn't know it was a family thing. The piercing eyes 💉👀. It's cute.
!PIZZA
!pimp
When and how did you see it oga? 👀
😂 😂 The answer is not for your ears
I also have to ask now. When and how have you seen it countless times?😂😂
😂 😂 come to the other side, I'll tell you. There's too many eyes here.
Vybes Kartel, I see you😂
😂 😂 😂
Heyyyy.., first time am seeing your pretty face. Oh! Maybe a second thanks to derra 😅
But then you're really really pretty with a skin screaming chocolate and caramel ooww eiiii😫😫🥹
Really got blown away tho..lol
And as for the glaring part, it's an admirable trait in my opinion and really which I had that too. I think it would help stop nonsense even without uttering a word, especially on that pretty face🥰
cough! Erm!
(@jhymi ... I said you should not post this picture 😑)
But she's beautiful isn't she?🥹 but don’t try and toast my woman Sha 🚶🏿♀️➡️
😂😂.. Yea, she is a beauty to behold 🥰🥰
Nahh.. Probably not in this life but we've booked ourselves to be together in our next life🤭☺️
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Even if I wanted to live an anonymous life, that woman won't let me live it as she posts my picture everywhere.😂
And stopp, please the level of times I blushed as I read this, Tory. Thank you, my love. Your compliment is enough to make my day. Let me go and use my no-nonsense face to chase people.😂🥰
😂😂😂.. No no… you'll end up catching their attentions instead.lol
By d way, its really not an actual compliment because you're beautiful especially with your forehead 🤭💯
I knew you'll finally say your mind concerning my forehead. Chai.😂
Abeggi..😂 two of us know that's one of your selling point.
It's fits perfectly and you know that too🥰
Okay. I do know that. Pray we don't fight so I don't use it on you. 😂😂
Thank you so much, my love. It's been a pleasure having you around.❤️
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Welcome always hun🥰❤️
You look beautiful my friend.
Traits are funny things, I'm trying to think of one now that all my family have. Hmmm.xxx
We'd like to read it too 😃
Thank you so much, my friend and yeah, I thought hard about mine as well. I'd love to read from you when you eventually remember.🥰
The only thing I see is beauty and that’s it!
You’re those kinds of people whose face gives them away.😂 it’s the same with me, I just can’t help it.
Eiiiii....my Sugar mommy found me.😂
My face doesn't usually give me away o but when it comes to this one, my hands are tied, it seems. When are you coming so I can give you my special look, ma?😄
😂😂we can make it a virtual look.
Somehow, I never mentioned this but it's there by just looking at your pictures. It's even funny how you do it with a smile on your face.
It's like having a soft and sophisticated look at the same time... Regardless of how it makes people feel or how they describe the expression, you are beautiful...
Happy new month my lady...
Awwwnnn, I'll start crying this early morning now. And why? Because Georgiee made me cry. Thank you for this heart-warming comment, my good friend. You've been of my biggest cheerleaders since I came to Hive and I'll never forget it. Happy New Month again, dearest.🥰
Aww, seeing your face for the SECOND time, thanks to Deraa! You have beautiful skin. Chocolatey, caramelishy…Cat, have you been taking a lot Yogurt lately?
I've been staring at this picture and the other one (thanks, Deraa, for sharing it!) for minutes, but I still don't see the judgy look. Since your friends and others see it, I guess I'm the one missing it.
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Yeah, I have. Lots of it. How did you know?😂
That's because I clearly stated at the end of the picture that this was not the look. I don't even know when I'm giving it so I can't take a picture of the moment. This one you didn't read that part, where was your mind, Kitten?🤔
Of course. But, someone in the comments wrote "I think the image expresses the judgy look.” I’m saying that I don’t see it in this picture and in the other pictures… sorry, Picture (the one Deraa sent.)
Ps: I will soon tie @deraaa’s neck.
@b0s sorry, sir. Be like na the real Vybes Kartel be this ooo😂😂😂
I don't even know what to say to you 😂
Hamza just busy making noise in my comment section anyhow.😂☹️
What!! 😂 That means people who don't know you will definitely tag you as the girl who looks down on people even tho that's not how you are 😂
Lovely picture and your hair is cute
That's how it is. My friends be like, "Tessa has started again. This person will now think you hate her." And I'm like please it's not like that and immediately smile.😂
Thank you, Meya.🌺
Really 😂😂
You look really beautiful and amazing. Even from just that picture, I can already tell those traits stand out effortlessly.
cough ...cough!!!!!
Nothing serious please🫠.
Don't mind her.
Deraa, please, rest.
Awwwn. Thank you so much. Glad you enjoyed reading.🥰
Look into my eyes... What do you see?😂😂😭
Hmmm...I see myself, using plank to konk Seki's head.🧘🏾♀️
How I wish I had a forehead shield like you to use defend myself 😭
$PIZZA slices delivered:
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We may not have seen that look many time but everyone can't be lying. It's not intentional, it's natural so you owe nobody an explanation and the fact that it runs through the family makes that amazing.
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This is so funny 🤣 And it makes sense too because it's something that you won't know you have until others point it out.