As we know, anger can be triggered by various things, such as frustration, hurt, insult, perceived injustice, and many more. Everyone handles anger differently, and what works for one person may not work for another.
When I'm angry, I sometimes express myself and sometimes, silence is the best option. Whichever I decide to do, depends on the environment, situation and the person(s) involved.
In one situation, I was angry with someone who wasn't respecting my boundaries. I stood up for myself and ended the conversation. I didn't call him back, and that was the end of it.
This guy had asked me out, and we were trying to figure out if we were a good match. One day I missed his calls because I was extremely busy with work. I was at an official event which required my undivided attention.
After the event, I returned the call but it didn't connect. So I left it, while hoping to try again when I get home. But on the way home, he called again. This time I was quick to answer it, even with a pleasant greeting. However he ignored it, instead, started questioning me about why I hadn't taken his calls earlier. According to him, I was supposed to answer his calls as soon as I saw them. To say I was startled or taken aback would be an understatement - I was gobsmacked.
Amidst the growing anger, I tried to remain calm and repeated my greeting three times, but he still didn't acknowledge it, and continued raving. That was when I lost my patience. I was already stressed, exhausted, and now this. I lashed out at him, asking what his problem was and why he couldn't even respond to a simple greeting. I reminded him that I'm usually busy with work and that he should have understood that I might not always be available to take his calls.
Feeling pissed, I told him that if he couldn't even acknowledge my greetings, then he should "get off my phone". With that, I kept quite and utter any other word, even though I could hear him at the other end. After a while, he hung up, and that was it.
In another situation, I was angry with a driver who abandoned me along the way, even after promising to drop me off at my bus stop. He knew that he wouldn't get to that point, but he lied just to get me to board his vehicle. When we got to the bus stop before mine, he stopped and told me and the other two passengers there to get off, that he wouldn't be going any further. He, instead said he would transfer us to another vehicle going to our destination, which he also failed to do. That was a clear breach of agreement.
Though I was seething with anger, I remained calm and decided not to blow off steam. Instead I got out of the vehicle, shot him a cold stare and stepped away. Meanwhile, the other passengers were venting, which should have spurred me to lash out at him, but I chose to kept quiet.
Why I behaved so still beats me. Maybe, I'd seen that there was no point or reason in lashing out at him. He'd already broken his promise and dropped us off. Getting confrontational would only have embarrassed me and made me angrier. Moreover, since the other passengers' outbursts didn't have any effect, I decided not to waste my energy. Instead, I prioritized my mental well-being.
More often than not, I choose not to express my anger because I don't want to say something I might regret. When I'm angry, I might say hurtful words that could harm myself or others. So the best thing is to let it pass.
Thank you for reading to this end.
This is my response to #februaryinleo day 11
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Hmm, that guy was basically rude to you. He has not even married you and he has started to boss and question you. If he now married you nko?
It's good you expressed yourself at that time and upheld your dignity.
As for the driver and his broken promise, that's how they are o. You should not even bother to vent cos you will lose energy. What he did was a tactics to cheat bit karma is always a bitch and these drivers end up paying twice what they did to someone else.
Happy February 14th sis ❤️
Sis eh, see somebody I was considering o, haven't even said yes to his proposal and he thinks I owe him any explanation about how I spend my time. I gave it to him hot hot, and everything ended there and then.
As for the driver, I was just in my good mood that day 😂.
Gracias and Happy Valentine's day to you too.
!HUG
That hot hot is necessary 😁😁😁😁
Thanks a lot
Very necessary o, if not you go enter one chance
Abi na 😁😁😁
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