A lot is happening among teenagers today and it's disappointing that sometimes they neglect the lessons surrounding them.
Hmmmm,what would be my next line of action as a parent? First,as a father I would take a deep breath, calm myself down and gather my thoughts.
Its not the time to misbehave, even if I will, let's get words off her mouth first.
No beating, no shouting, no cursing, for that would not solve the problem,am sure her mother might not want this, but that's what I would do,call her aside, look her straight in the eye and ask her to tell me all, everything that happened,how it happend,where it happend(it must not be under my roof tho,i might explode right there)who the boy is and all.
I would calm her,telling her what has happened has happened, the way forward Is the next,who is it,we need to know,i would listen attentively,taking notes of my questions without interrupting till she finish.
And when she does....(this is not Nigeria movie), she would regret it though, but not to disgrace her,it means disgracing me too,as I believe If I should and the neighbor sees how I treat her,then you've given them the chance to utter tr@sh too.
After hearing her story,,would discuss with my wife,tell her not to worry about disciplining her, we would definitely do that let's find our way to the boys family first and see,an elder in the family would go with us,with our pastor,just so you know,I might not be able to remain calm there.
We would ensure they take responsibility, that they don't abandon our,my daughter,emphasis on "my daughter", not that she would be staying with them,of that we would accept things from them,no.
But knowing it is theirs same way it is mine.
And its obvious we are keeping the child,we wouldn't need to tell her the consequences of her actions before she knows it,her mate preparing to resume school,hers is canceled till further notice, whereas the boy is going to school,who did it have a toll on the much.. She.
The murmuring behind her backs,the laugh and all,she should learn from all that and do well to let same repeat itself again,thats for me,I wouldn't mind her mother doing other things only that she should be careful with her usage of words and not out of anger say negative things.We would pray more for her,for her child.
Also remind her,that's not the end to her aspirations,she should be the most wisest now after all what shes facing herself.After birth and all,she would continue her education,telling her to be more careful,(with the kind of person I am,I might not even ask her to,i would mske sure to train you the right way,but when you decide to try things, its good for one to see things his/herself then maybe you would learn the hard way).
Would try calm my wife, as shes a woman too,talk to her,when you need be calm be,when you need to talk sense into her do....just do it out of love,shes still our daughter, we would support her from pregnancy ro childbirth and all,very step.
Mistakes happen,but it's how we learn from them that matters,depends on the type of mistake though,if it is punishable, if it is self punishable.....
And lastly I would tell her,the fact that she has a child for someone does not limit her or to make her feel inferior, not at all,she shouldn't at the same time feel the necessity to get married to same guy if they have both lost interest in each other.
that's what I would do.,that's what we would do as parents.We would face the challenges.
It has happened.
Thanks for taking your time to read through.
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