Have you ever gone out of your way to do something so you would seem "cool" to someone or a group of people or so they would like you? Is it something you've faced or still face?
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I saw this week's prompt and i said, "im gonna write on this, i need to have this conversation with myself. I cant let it pass me by". And you know why? Because this is such an easy but so hard question, ive never remy thiyght about it .so, despite such a busy week, i have to talk about this.
I would say sometimes, very few times....i have gone out of my way to want to impress a person or yeah, a group of persons. Like who has not? But what i would say is everyone really has someone they want to impress or seem cool to, yes? But it has never really been my peers. I've been a people pleaser for sometime, maybe still fighting the tendencies but I've never really been the one to do things which I'll normally not do to impress someone.
So, I'll give an instance. A friend comes up to me and asks for help maybe my company to somewhere or to do one or two things for her? Cool, i may do it or say, a teacher asks me to do something, I'll naturally want to impress the teacher. But say, there's a group of people who seemingly live this good big life and then because i want to be cool in yheir eyes and join the crew, ill sart doing things i normally won't do? Oh, that's not me, boo. I do not have the strength. I don't and im not saying these to impress nobody but thinking back from my childhood till now, i dont recall ever trying to be something I'm not to impress people.
What do you think tho? Of the saying "fake it till you make it", a lot of people take that quote to be a permit to dp things they would normally not do to impress and get in a space but they forget that modt times, if you dont let things happen authentically, they end up falling like a house with no good foundation. I remember hearing about a certain girl who was struggling so bad to fit into her circle of friends who she told she was wealthy to appear cool, but would end up asking for food from people, allegedly. I dont know, im not saying it baddd but what do you think? I wouldn't really know the circumstances surrounding her neither can i go into details of things I'm not sure of but I'm only telling you cause i kmow you'll keep it a secret and infact, that would make you cool enough to impress me. Hehehe.
Anyways that said ,i think its probably a 70:30 ratio where i would say I've never faced that but would also say that i must have a few times maybe consciously or subsconsciously.
But i would also say this.... it's not bad to want to appear cool or impress someone but the question should be why? Why do you want to impress this person? Who is this person to you? Would the person care that you're doing these things? Are the things you're doing positive or negative? What effects would they have on you? I wouldn't know the answers to these questions for you! But yeah, i guess you have to do the answering yourself. And chile, be good y'all
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STOPhi @mesonia nice write up, just that, well done friend