Just this weekend, my younger brother did what got me really mad, and I was so bitter because if not for the sacrifice that I had made for him earlier towards the end of last year, he could have lost his life. Having sacrificed so much for him, I had expected him to be of good behavior, but it turned out otherwise, and you can imagine how enraged I became.
Throughout the month of November, he was ill and admitted to the hospital. I spent a whole lot as the doctors battled for his life. He got better, and having come out of the hospital, we are still spending a good sum visiting the neurologist for the brain situation he suffered. I moved the boy in to stay with me for a while, and on Sunday morning he made a mistake with the water pipe. Upon trying to correct him, the boy got so angry and refused to eat.
He spent the whole day on empty stomach while on certain drugs. I was worried and angry at the same time, and by evening I couldn't bottle it in again. How can a sick boy be using his drugs on an empty stomach, refusing to eat my food because he was angry? Talking of a boy of barely 16 years of age. By 7pm I asked him to pick his belongings with me and go stay with my other sister who lives in town as well.
I wanted him to go there, and just maybe they could talk some sense into him and make him eat. I can't imagine keeping someone who is sick, on drugs, and on an empty stomach with me overnight.
He left my place and didn't go to any of my sister's houses; this is how poorly behaved children of this generation can get. He is feeling too big to apologize and let peace reign; instead, he chose to lock himself further in another apartment, causing everyone to panic, looking out for him and his well-being. 48 hours and still counting, the sick boy has refused to eat or drink water. Not talking to anyone and locking himself in the house. This morning I have to send some neighbors to go talk some sense into him; maybe he will listen.
Sincerely, I don't know who should be angrier between myself and the boy who I am trying to correct to be of good behavior; after sacrificing so much for him, this is how he repays me—with a terrible attitude. Even though I am angry to the core, I just have to force myself to control this anger so that the boy can regain safety first.
A typical African parent will overreact at this point and beat up this boy, but I am just his sister, and even though I feel like doing so, I fear for his health, and being a little bigger than I am, he might end up beating me up. 😃. I can remember how much beating I received from my mom; it gave me a factory setting to certain of these kinds of poor behavior. We don't spare the rod here, so it is believed that sparing the rod spoils the children. It is usually so much pain to raise raise poorly mannered children.
Sincerely, I am really mad at this moment. I believe that some of us here will react differently to this situation depending on certain criteria because it is said that as our faces are different, so also we react to challenges differently.
Personally, I have worked on myself over time to control anger, but sometimes people get on our nerves so much that we are forced to explode. We may have bottled certain displeasures towards people or things for a while hoping that they would change but if that never happens and they seem to offend us one more time, even if it were with the smallest issues anyone can become enraged at that point. You would notice that they have been bottling the anger for a while.
Some situations warrant that we get angry, but over time we learn to keep it at bay and not react angrily to virtually every little displeasure. And it's good if we learn to control our anger so that we don't end up killing a man or with even worse consequences. I can be silent or expressive with my anger, it only depends on the circumstances.
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I used to get angry to the extent I would speak out negative words and curses on my siblings. The funny thing is that I don't get angry like this with outsiders but my family. They know me how quickly I react with curses whenever I am angry but it has changed since I don't want that life anymore. I was told how the devil is always happy and would hold onto to those curses while inflicting on the people I cursed and I changed from that day and would be careful of my words whenever I am a little angry.
For your brother, you just have to be calm and speak to him. Even though he isn't someone who wants to apologise, by speaking softly to him, he would calm down. Even if he doesn't say sorry, his reaction would say it. No matter what, he is still your brother.
I can totally relate, getting angry with family members can be something else, since they are our blood, we feel pained the more.
Thank you for the advice. I will make good use of it.
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I can relate, same goes to me if someone got me angry, I can say what am suppose not to say to that person that's why if someone got me angry instead of me to explode I will fist my hand so that I can control it. And about your brother you have to take it easy with him especially since he's sick