Ore and I are siblings of the same father and the same mother. We never lived together from on set because I stayed with our grandma for over 10years of my life while Ore lived with our parents but when the time came, I went back to our parents and that was how we started living together.
[Ore & I]
Although, we are family of seven which means five children plus our dad and mum. We are different in many ways but one or two things we do together such as playing football and watching wrestling. As time goes on, life happened to us and we lost our father which changed the tragectory of our lives. Mum traveled somewhere else with other siblings but Ore and I stayed together as strangers.
We cooked together but eat differently, we do things differently, have different mindset but I am older than he his. So as an older brother, I will give him instructions but he will not follow it or carry it out, "get this done before I get back" by the time I get back, he will not get it done. Anyone in the Yoruba culture knows that once you told someone something three times, be it instruction, advice or whatever it is once it is not followed, consequences tend to follow. Which is what happened next.
So one of these days I gave him an instruction not to do something but has usual he did not follow it which made me had different questions in my head such has: what have I done to deserve this disrespect from him?, is there a secret he knows about me that made him have the right to disregard my instructions?, is there anyone teaching him to turn his back against me by not carrying out my instructions? etc these and a whole lots more were in my head. This brought up a serious anger in me knowing fully well that the answers to the questions is NO and I slapped him because I could not control my emotions any longer in my rage, dragged him into the room and I locked the door behind that since his a male and I am a male too, let us engage in boxing. Lets see who will win and I know he cannot touch me because I am older than he his. The Yoruba culture allows the older brother be respected in every situation unless threat to life and going back to the fight we had, I won. The reason of this fight was to show him I am older, I must be respected and my instructions should be carried out.
Later on, I regretted my action because I really felt I shouldn't have fought with him but I later apologized and in case you will like to know, this incident happened about ten years ago.
We are now cool because we have evolved, stayed together more, learnt things more, understood each other more, loved each other more and that was the only incident we had that involved a physical fight. Funny how, we are still living together.
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I am glad to read that you both are living peacefully now. Siblings Rivalry is common in families but some are too severe and are being caused by our parents. I understand your feeling and why you expressed your anger to ur brother after all, we are all humans with emotions. It hurts to be disrespected. But with time, you both kept understanding life more and now live peacefully without rivalry. Thanks for sharing your life experience on this topic
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With age and maturity you guys won't be fighting and even in incidence of argument that can be settled amicable.
Yes, you are right.
We have outgrown that phase where settling issue is of violence.
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Hehe, fights among siblings seem to be something natural in thw world and maybe much particular in Naija and that is for somamy reasons
I fought very well growing up and many times I was beaten, hehe
Lol. You were beaten many times?
Well, if I had fought with an outsider, I must have been beaten too because I am fearful but you know in the place of anger, fear disappears.
Ahh🤣🤣🤣
I’m sorry but this is funny
I wonder what exactly was even going through your head for you to start that fight
I’m glad you regretted and apologized
#dreemerforlife
What was going through my head was, I was disrespected, dishonored, belittled as the older one. So let me show you I am older and you have to obey me.
Those were the things inside my head.
Now, such cannot happen again till we both die. Lol.
Haha
Such things happen, there's always sibling's rivalry whether silent open.
#dreemerforlife
The silent rivalry is more deadly because this can last for years.
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Aah, I haven't experience fighting my siblings. They loved me so much that I couldn't fight them not in joke. But wants to do for one time haha lol
Lol.
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It is so much a factor of our society that pushes this macho ideas on us, instead of teaching to handle things without violence. Too much of "spare the rod and spoil the kid" mentality has seeped through our cultures. Probably in our ancient warring past these things made sense but in today's time it is counterproductive for us. It is good to know that you immediately were sorry and that you and your brother are good together. I hope we all learn to make peace with our anger without expressing it. Very difficult for me, but have to keep trying.
Cheers from a fellow #dreemerforlife
Thank you for comment.
It really blessed my heart.
Cheers to #dreemerforlife
This is one of the many reasons I'd wish i was a male. I don't want yo start imagining my gender reaction in a story as yours, if you know what i mean😄
Am glad things are well between you two.
#dreemerforlife
Lolololololololol.
I really do. I hope if there is a next life, I will inform God to make you one. Lol.
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😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅.. You're welcome brother ❤