Humans act and behave differently, and as we continue to relate to each other, it's easy to detect those small things that annoy or irritate us from our fellow beings. This is commonly regarded as pet peeves, and it's usually uncomfortable when it happens repeatedly.
The same way you have those little things that irritate you from someone, the same way another person has something about your habits that irritates him or her. I have a long list of pet peeves, but in all, I didn't allow it to end my relationship with my partner or friends but rather found a way to discuss it so it can be curtailed to a large extent.
There's this trait my partner possesses, which is my pet peeve, and I will tell you about how I managed it instead of allowing it to affect my relationship with him.
It's simply not saying "please" or "thank you!
First off, I tried to understand how he behaves that way and then accept our differences first to help lessen the way I get irritated with such pet peeves. There's a way you talk to someone by using a simple magic word, let's say, please help me clean this shoe, or please help me wash those clothes over there, and then it sends a message of value and respect other than, "wash these clothes for me", "clean this pam", etc. It sounds like a command, and I detest it. If you really want me to do something for you, then you should learn to say "please", as simple as that, because if you command me, you are wasting your time. As simple as this may sound, it's one of my pet peeves, and I can hardly ignore it from anyone close to me.
The second part of it is "thank you"! C'mon, it's just an ordinary thank you for seeing my effort at home or a contribution of any kind. My partner lacked this kind of expression, but according to him, before I helped him manage it, he said deep down within him, he acknowledges whatever I do but doesn't find it necessary to say thank you. Even after overworking myself for you or getting you a present, you can't say an ordinary thank you? Oh boy... this was annoying back then, but then, it's not enough to end my relationship with him. I'd rather set up an open communication and discuss each of our pet peeves.
Surprisingly, he told me one about me, which was irritating him but has been managing it for peace to reign, hehehe. Hmmm, he said mine was interrupting while he is speaking to me. Honestly, I got that A+ before, but I am now a changed child, hahaha. The thing is that it's impatience that caused me that. I am always in a hurry to express myself before he finishes talking, but ever since we talked about it and hubby told me that it's a sign of disrespect, I have strived to stop such a habit. I would rather wear patience like a garment and allow him to express himself as long as he can over an issue, before I come in to say whatever I have to say.
Overall, open communication helped me fix those pet peeves that wanted to make our relationship unhealthy.
There you have it, my pet peeves regarding my relationship and how I reacted to it.
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Hahaha 😀 this always happen to me, too because at that moment, I want to spill everything out, just to defend myself but I learnt it's not a good thing. It only escalates issues.
Well, I love how you both handled the issue, talked it out and made changes. I also do not like someone not saying please or thank you. Sincerely, you won't see me helping oo if you don't add "please" I need that respect too. Lol
Hahaha... you too love that kind of respect.. lolz
Yesoo...it makes more sense that way not a periphery kind of lifestyle
Indeed ordering makes one feel worse. So let me try to say something to you without the vibe of order.
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I said both "please" and "thank you". So, can I expect I am going to get it🤣🤣. !LOL
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That's funny 🤣...at least u used your magic words...so expect something in ur wallet😝😉
Communication is vital in relationships and see how it helped you guys grow.
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Thank you is very important in a relationship, it spurs one to do more and it shows that you're acknowledge the good done for you.
Working around your pet peeves with your partner was a very good. It shows that you're but invested in the relationship annnd want to see it thrive.
Awwwwwww.... thanks for your feedback..they are warming
You're welcome
i totally get snd understnad this, thankfully you were able to curtail it
Indeed...I am glad I could
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