I know they say, "A problem shared is a problem half solved." I also believe that in life, we all need each other to grow and survive, no one is an island of knowledge. Personally, I don’t doubt these facts.
However, when it comes to having a go-to person whenever I face challenges, I can’t really say I have one, apart from God, but let’s not go spiritual. Hahaha!
At work, if I have an issue, I talk to any colleague I feel can assist. But outside work, I strongly believe in facing my problems and trying to solve them on my own before reaching out to anyone, sometimes, I don’t even contact anyone at all. I know this might not be the best approach, as it has its downsides.
On the other hand, I dislike disturbing people with my problems because I feel everyone has their own issues to deal with. The worst part is, if I approach someone for help and they turn me down, I might never ask them for anything again, no matter how serious the situation is.
Another major issue is trust. Not everyone you share your problems with genuinely wants to help; some may even turn your struggles into a topic of discussion.
I remember the case of Ini and Ifiok back then in my street.
Ini and Ifiok were known to be best friends in the neighborhood. Ini, facing financial difficulties in school and relationship issues with his girlfriend, confided in Ifiok, believing he was someone who could keep secrets. Ifiok agreed to help.
However, two weeks later, a minor disagreement arose, possibly because Ini had not repaid the money as agreed. Out of anger, Ifiok began sharing Ini’s struggles with everyone he met, even exposing his relationship issues. That single act of betrayal became a lesson,not just for Ini but for everyone who cared to learn. Not every friend can be trusted with personal matters.
That said, solving my problems by myself boosts my self-confidence and helps me grow because I learn from the experience. However, I do not completely reject help. There are moments when I collaborate and seek advice from others, but it depends on the situation. Even in such cases, I always try to take the first step before reaching out.
In summary, I am my first go-to person in any situation. Thanks for reading, I am @nsigo1
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Many people do say that a problem shared is a problem half solved, but then, sometimes, or maybe most times, it's better for a person to tackle their problem solo.
Seriously ooo, before a problem shared becomes a news headlines
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I completely understand where you're coming from! It's great that you've learned to be self-sufficient and confident in handling your own problems.