Taking the positives from a toxic relationship
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Six fluffing weeks since I have posted in Hive Naija! Wow how time flies....
This is an article written for the #octoberinleo writing prompt series and Day 24 prompt ....
My experience of this prompt could be VERY Surprising to you ☑️
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Day 24! Hive Naija invites you to share, What are the effects of a toxic relationship?
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I ummed and aaahed before I finally settled on the approach I was going to do for this...
We all know about toxic relationships but I think they are more common and widespread than you think...
I guess most people think of romance and boy / girl relationships that go toxic...
Yes that is one, but they can be all over the place if you let them...
Friends and colleagues can quickly become toxic to you.
Likewise communities can be infiltrated by negative people and it becomes a toxic place.
But I believe leopards don't change their spots, in the end the true nature of people always comes out in the end.
So I am not about to talk about toxic relationships I actually have a couple of chapters regarding this in my book.
Shameless plug coming up, as my editor has told it will be published come what may, on the 1st of January.
Apparently to capture the New Year's resolutions crowd!
So you are in a toxic relationship...
Learn from it...
I am a believer in the positive although people can stretch me to my limits...
Finding a positive in a toxic relationship can be challenging, but it is possible.
Yes it is...
I know you kids are all about putting labels on things and reinventing the wheel but just calling it something...
So you are all about personal growth right?
Yeah well one positive in a toxic relationship is the opportunity for personal growth...
Fluff off Tengo I hear you say!
No just wait and listen....
Toxic relationships can force you to confront your own weaknesses and boundaries.
You may learn to become more assertive.
You may learn to develop stronger self-esteem and ...
You may learn to recognize unhealthy relationship patterns.
I have seen too many people lurch from one fluffing toxic relationship to another.
Learning can benefit you!
Another positive is that it can serve as a catalyst for change. Sometimes we get too comfy and need a jolt to wake us up!
Experiencing a toxic relationship might motivate you to seek therapy or counseling.
This in turn could lead to improved self-awareness and healthier future relationships.
People should not be selfish, but they should definitely start thinking about themselves. See about therapy but I would be wary of self therapy and using the internet blindly!!!!
It can also highlight the importance of self-love and prioritizing your own well-being.
Remember that identifying a positive doesn't justify staying in a toxic situation.
It's crucial to prioritize your safety and mental health even if it means leaving the relationship.
I have removed negatives from my life, including family friends and workplaces.
Look after yourself, just because someone was once your bff does not mean that relationship can't become toxic!
Thanks for visiting and I hope you enjoyed my response to the prompt.
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This article is an entry for this month's Inleo writing initiative #septemberinleo
You can find all the details in this thread
Today's prompt is Day 24 | What are the effects of a toxic relationship?
All ramblings are from me, the mad Scotsman TengoLoTodo unless otherwise stated, note lead image is generated with AI on freepix.com from a prompt by me.The other photographs are all orginal and taken by me the author.
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I think what we want is more important. If we want to choose the positive side, then we can also find positivity in a toxic relationship. However, most of us only focus on negative things, which has a negative impact and makes the relationship more toxic. I think we need to figure out what is making the relationship toxic and work to fix it.
That seems to be true unfortunately, I believe we become what we associate with... If we around negative people ... well there is only one outcome.
For me that is why I ditch the negative things and people from my life!
Ahah! That's something people don't say much. Truth indeed. In some ways too, we don't do very well ourselves, so learn from that too. Learn and grow from it all.
It is all about learning and growing Olujay, we never stop.
One thing I love about your posts is how detailed you get into them and the amount of wisdom they always pack. Thank you for this. We young ones always have to think of ourselves and learn from our mistakes too
Mistakes are only mistakes if you don't learn from them, then they are lessons.
Thanks for the prompt, it was a cracker and got me thinking not to mention got me adding to one of my chapters.
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Wow! This is nice. Haven't seen such approach to prompts during my short time in hive. However, it's encouraging and mirrors reality of toxic relationship
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