Anger is a strong emotion that usually pops up when an individual is displeased, frustrated, disrespected, or feels threatened, afraid, and the like. During anger, a lot of people react differently; while some usually blow hot and speak out their minds without filter, others usually choose to remain quiet during this period, a cautionary action to prevent saying things they won't be proud of out of anger in the next minutes. In this article today, I'll be telling about how I react during anger between the two examples highlighted above.
Although I'm the type of person who doesn't believe that anger is entirely bad, I mean, it's an avenue for you to state your displeasure about one thing or another, and when you air your thoughts, it shows you value what you have with the person you're angry with, and saying your mind helps rectify the situation, meaning that when anger is displayed reasonably, it can help you release your emotions, protect you from such acts again, and create a medium of communication to bridge the gap created by individual differences.
When it comes to how I display my anger or misunderstanding with others, I usually prefer staying quiet when I know I'm literally burning with anger because I know opening my mouth to air my thoughts at that very moment won't be pleasing, and some of the things I'll say might become what I'll regret saying later, and since such has played out on two occasions, I've made it a point of duty to stay mute when I'm angry; in fact, if I happen to be beside such a person and they're saying provocative words that want to push me to speak, I usually try my best to bridle my tongue or walk far away from that place, and when everything has been settled, I come back and we can discuss it as civilized individuals who want the best for each other, be they friends, colleagues, superiors, or what have you.
I'm not saying that those who speak when they're angry are doing something bad; I mean, that's the entire point of anger, to speak your mind, so saying it during anger isn't totally bad, but then if you know you won't be able to watch your words and filter them to not say hurtful things that you would regret saying, then it's best to stay quiet, but if you know how to manage your emotions well and say the right words, then go ahead if that works for you; everyone is built differently and has their uniqueness.
So overall, for the sake of peace, we must all work towards managing our anger effectively, and some of the ways that can be achieved are by recognizing what triggers our anger, taking a timeout to calm down our nerves, and overall learning how to communicate effectively without causing more harm—that is, making our feelings known in a clear and respectful manner.
That's about it on my ways of dealing with anger, and as it's a season and a day of love, I'll enjoy each one of us letting love lead in all we do, even in anger. When you air your displeasure with love, it helps make our community and the world at large a better place, so in light of that, I'd love to say happy Valentine's Day to you all.
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Anger is not bad at all. Even preachers encourage it because sometimes when one keeps quiet too much, such person is taken for granted. The only issue is how deep some people go should expressing anger
Yea that's very true, it's not entirely bad, and we should always speak up when we're not pleased to avoid being taken for granted Ike you said.