In this context you thought I might have a confidence issue, little regard for myself, and it seems like you were trying to look after my self-esteem if I'm assuming correctly.
It is not that I am thinking of other people in absolute terms. You might have a confidence issue, I would not judge you if you had. If have many of my own :) What interests me more to find examples where they did not play a major role but other things were of better support. The opposite of coercion. Yes.