Hello everyone, welcome to another prompt of the week with the title; The science of anger management. This is an interesting topic I feel everyone needs to be well informed about because anger is a natural and emotional feelings in man, which if not properly managed can leads to both physical and emotional damages.
Having said that, I would like to share a terrible experience I had when I was just 8 years of age. It's an experience that keeps hunting my conscience till date, just because I could not manage my anger.
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So, this is what happened; One faithful day, my dad sent for me to go and meet him in one of his friend’s house so that he can take me to the barbing saloon to have my hair cut. When I got the news I was very happy, immediately I took my slippers and proceed to meet him in the house. Getting to the house so excited, I pulled out my slippers by the door and went inside to see my dad. Just when I was about to greet everyone in the sitting room, I received a hot slap from my dad followed by the question 'where is your slippers?' I could only point to the door in tears because that slap was hot, which I wasn't expecting.
His friend was offended and decided to pick up the fight for me. Asking my dad a question; did you expect him to enter my sitting room with slippers? My dad could not answer the simple question, only grumbling that he knew me to be that careless that I don't put on slippers regularly. I knew he regretted his actions, I can see it in his eyes but his ego could not let him apologize to me. I was so angry but what else can I do.
After the terrible experience we went to the barbing saloon and he paid for my hair to be cut and asked me to return home immediately I got my hair cut while he went out continue with his daily activities.
Filled with anger, an idea down on me to do something that will hurt him badly. So immediately I got home I went straight to my father's drawer and pick one of his favorite shirts, put it together with my clothes which I will be taking to the river because my mum said once I return I should pick up my clothes and meet her in the river. I also went to the kitchen and pickup the available matches and head straight to the river.
On my way to the river when I noticed that no one was watching me, I immediately removed father’s favorite shirt which I picked from the drawer and burnt it beside the road. Fortunately for me no one saw me, but unfortunately that little action caused a major disaster.
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Just when we were in the river, we heard people shouting Fire! Fire!! Fire!!!. When we rushed there we noticed that the fire I set slowly get into someone's farm land and burnt down a major part of his grains (guinea corn). A lot of things were said by the people who came to quench the fire; some said it's a deliberate act of the man's enemies, after tracing down to the point I set the fire. Only I know what happened and I could not speak out because I know the outcome will be terrible. I had to keep my mouth shut, dealing with the guilt in my heart. I regretted my actions actually.
After the whole fire drama, we went back to the river and completed the washing and got back home. On getting home, mummy entered the kitchen to start cooking but unfortunately she could not find her matches. Everyone was hungry including me and mummy did not have any money to buy a new matches and our only neighbor was not around to borrow from her. So we had to wait for our father to return from work even though we were very hungry. My actions cause a lot of damages and I wished it never happened.
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When my dad returned from work, he came along with a gift (shoe) and sardine and bread to make up for what he did to me. He was truly sorry but unfortunately my bad deeds cannot be undone. I was hurting within with the guilt but I can't say anything because I'm going to pay dearly for my actions. Few days later when my dad could not find his favorite shirt he had to face my mother that probably she allow water to take his favorite shirt away. She swore she didn't take that shirt to the river that day, but he didn’t believe her. A lot of arguments occurred all because of David's lack of ability to manage his anger. Till date I'm being hunted by the guilt. It's one of the terrible things I did as a child which I will never forget so quickly.
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But the truth remains that, the incident naturally taught me a big lesson about anger management even for the fact that I was just a child. The incident is just fresh in my head that I find it difficult to react when angered till date. When I’m hurt, the best way to manage my anger is to walk away from the root cause of the anger in order to avoid negative reaction.
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Bro, that's a good one. Actually your father was to quick to slarpped you he would have ask you first. you too, you could not control your anger. Thanks for sharing.
Actually, that's what anger can caused.
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Psalm 37:8 says, “Refrain from anger and turn from wrath; do not fret—it leads only to evil.”
Thanks for sharing your experience with us.
Thanks for sharing this bible passage papa🙏. It's worth taking note of.
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IT IS VERY IMPORTANT FOR US TO ALWAYS CONTROL OUR ANGER MOST TIMES IF WE FAIL TO IT WILL CAUSE US A LOT OF PROBLEM AT THE END WE WILL REGRET OUR ACTIONS OR OUR WORDS.
That's true, I actually learnt a life lesson
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